to feel like a should go pick up DS

[lola88]

Ds is staying with my sister i dropped him off last night at 5pm and he will be dropped off here at 5pm tonight, along with DN who will then stay with me from 5-5. My sister and i do this from time to time for a break 24 hours each works great we live 5 mins walk from each other so it's very easy. DS see's my sister almost everyday and at her house so much it's like a second home so he is perfectly happy there with her and she knows everything about him prob almost as well as i do. I am totally happy for him to be there with out me normally

DS is 7mo and a bad sleeper and has been up a lot in the night due to a new tooth i'm now sitting here feeling like i should go get them both to let my sister have a sleep BUT no matter what happend with DN tonight or if DS is up all night my sister will not come to get DN early and will still expect me to keep her til 5 tomoro. Example the last time DN was not well was up coughing all night a nightmare during the day but i just got on with it sister didn't offer to come for her.

Should i go or just let her deal with it?

Please don't slate me for letting DS stay away i'm happy with it.

i'd just let her deal with it to be honest, its not much longer till 5 and shes coped all night. She will have a full days rest in a few hours to get over it a anyway.

wish someone did this for me though [jealous]

How do you know all this - has your sister actually asked you to collect your DS?

God you are fortunate. Your post has warmed my heart. :) Just leave her there. Enjoy!

She's going to get a rest tomorrow isn't she? So what's the problem? Just let her deal with it. I assume if you take the children to give each other a rest, that would mean taking on an ill child too, although I'd decline a chicken poxy child being around my baby.

Well, if your agreement is 5-5, then just stick to that as long as you are happy with it?
You're not concerned that your sister can't cope with your DS are you?
I mean, is it just you think you should get them now because she has been up all night?
Has she asked you to come now?

Personally I'd keep to the arrangement. It sounds like you do it to give each other a break. If you pick them both up now, you won't have had much of a break will you?

Maybe knowing he is poorly with his tooth is making you want to be there for him yourself?

I know I would - if either of mine is in distress I don't want them being looked after by someone else, I want it to be me.

Leave him there, he's already been the night and they've all coped. You'll have him back tonight and your sister gets her break then.

I called his morning just to see how DS was and if his tooth has broke through yet. She's not asked me i just feel a bit bad she will be tired all day because my baby was up last night.

If your sis rings and asks you to pick him up early, go. If not, then enjoy the peace.

Kind of agree with Ed above - if I knew my DS was poorly I would be fretting, can't help it. But having said that (and knowing he is only a 5 minute walk away) I would try not to worry too much, as if it were an emergency or he became really distressed surely she would call you then bring him straight home.

The 24 hour break you give eachother is a wonderful idea, I'm jealous too! But that's what it is, a break. Try and enjoy it, it sounds like your sister does when it's her turn. Not saying she's more selfish of course, as I'm sure she would be there like a shot if your DN really needed her.

Do you think he would feel better being with his mum? If so, go and get him.

I'm just going to leave them i know he will be fine. DN is 5 so it's easier for my sister to not worry about her i think.

It's wonderful getting the break we are lucky to be so close DN was 'my baby' before i had my own child i just doted on her (still do) so when i had DS it was just natural for my sister to be the same with him.

I don't worry about him being at my sisters at all i know she loves him every bit as much as i do and treats me as her own when he's there. Apart from DP she is the person DS is closest to in the world after me.

treats him*