AIBU to be annoyed when someone loads my dishwasher wrong?

[AndiMac]

Is it unreasonable of me to be pissed off when someone loads my dishwasher wrong? And I don't just mean a plate turned the wrong way, (although that is also an offence) but so totally screwed up that if left, nothing, NOTHING would be cleaned. The list of crimes:

• Bowls stacked on one another so that water would never touch the bowl behind. They were spooning so closely they needed birth control.
• 8 slots for cutlery, all of it crammed into the front four, nothing in the back four, 1 inch behind the other slots.
• bowls in the cup place
• cups stacked sideways
• large serving spoons put on the top row where they can fall out rather than the bottom row where they can't
• a bunch of cutlery and cups left in the sink after the "helper" has left the kitchen after being so obliging as to clear up after dinner.

Really, AIBU to be screaming inside with my Queen of Hearts' voice, "Off with his head!"?

my mum didnt tell me she was round your house today

You need to either do it yourself, or go and have a chat with your GP. OCD can be treated.

DON'T DO IT FOR HIM. Just give him the dirty bowls for his cereal, cup for his tea and say, "oops, the dishwasher must have been badly packed". DON'T DO IT FOR HIM.

LadySybilde, I did do it myself, as I had to go and reload the whole thing anyway.

And it's not OCD, it's CDO, with the letters in alphabetical order, as they should be.

You should have done it yourself to start off with!

Well, that's you packing the dishwasher for the next 20 years then. His fiendish plan worked.

Mrs Terry, it was my FIL, who is with us for another 3 days. I'd rather just mentally get back at him on this one, as we have in the past clashed on bigger things than this. He's getting a severe tongue lashing in my mind. If it had been DH, it would have been much less silent.

That's alright then

At least yours offers. Mine was here at Christmas, refused to sit down to Christmas dinner (after taking DH for a walk before it and making dinner late), carried on eating for 20 minutes after everyone else was finished and then 'let us' get on with clearing up. The last forkful went in his mouth just as the last dish was done. He wants to come this year, he won't be.

my mum loves to come round, help out a wee bit...shes on her own and it seems to be her hobby...but BUT BUT she has a dishwasher of her own, and has done for years...i should really take a pic and post it, because you would not believe me....

Someone else is loading your dishwasher.

Have a large gin and catch yerself on

YANBU. DZH had to earn his 'loading the dishwasher' badge the hard way.

Actually, I've realised I have a bigger problem. I've referred to a white good as "mine". Why is it my dishwasher vs the dishwasher.

AndiMac = Betty Draper

More Phyllis Diller than Betty Draper.

Arf!

And recently R.I.P.

I like to channel my inner Lucille Ball when performing domestic drudgery.

Aw Andi-cut your FIL a bit of slack. Sounds like he's probably more used to sinks than dishwashers....

He has a dishwasher at home, but I'm pretty sure MIL suffers his loading technique as well.

Plus this is the man, in conjunction with DH, cut the hedge from 5 foot high to 1 foot stump this week. I didn't tell him about the dishwasher because really, that's a small offence. other than it's every day and makes feel feel stabby

Omfgkillmenow, I want to see pictures! I can then take comfort that it's not just the dishwasher in our house (carefully avoiding personal possession of it) that suffers from crap loading techniques!

If you are calling it my dishwasher then maybe you should be the only one to load it, and then it would only be done the way you like.

If it is actually the household's dishwasher then maybe the rest of the people in the house get a say in what is "correct" (excluding doing things that will result in breakages)

YANBU

My old house mates (aparantly quite clever, good jobs etc) couldn't load the dishwasher. They had a fundamental lack of understanding about the flow of water and would put things in so that no water would ever touch tr dirty bowl. Fucking idiots.

My DP is fantastic at stacking the dishwasher so I cook and plays the game of bending time and space to fit things in the very awkward and rubbish dishwasher in our rented flat.

My MIL won't let me load her dishwasher even though I am a dishwasher loading expert she is fairly relaxed about most things.

I guess each dishwasher has a 'best' way to be loaded to fit in most stuff and clean most effectively... you know your own and no-one else can be expected to do it 'right'.

Haha, sorry but yabu. Every family I've worked for or where I have lived have different rules for the dishwasher packing, drives me mad!

This is also one of my pet hates!
My sister came and threw everything in the other day, it was cram packed with pots pans and all sorts of shit in the wrong place aggghh.
I always hand wash pans and pots, does anyone dishwash them?

I do occasionally throw the pots and pans that aren't too heavily soiled into the dishwasher. Because better it risks losing its non-stick coating than it sits around for 5 days, unwashed.

(I am particular about the dishwasher, not my countertop space wastage.)