Regarding DS wetting himself at school?

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FIL picked DS (4) from school today to find he had wet himself but hasn't been changed! It was obvious that it hadn't just happened as it was starting to dry and DS s skin was sore.

FIL brought him home and sorted him out but I'm so annoyed that no one noticed! It wasn't just a dribble, his trousers, pants, socks and shoes were wet and probably drenched before it started to dry!

I asked my son why he didn't tell one of the teachers and he said he did but no one would listen because they were all too busy!

Tbh I can imagine this to be true, it's a class of 30 (reception) and there are quite a number of behaviour and SEN in the class. Whenever I pick/ drop off DS up it chaos and DS complains about it being noisy and teachers not listening to him when he has news to tell them.

But surely this is neglect? Especially as he was sore!

Aibu to ask for a meeting with head about this or should I just speak to class teacher?

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I would ask to talk with the teachers and head.

Not acceptable.

Poor little guy I'd talk to the teacher. Does he have a change of clothes in his bag?

No, I asked about sending a change of clothes and they said it wasn't necessary as they have plenty of spares!

Is this tne first time?
You have to nip it in tne bud. Yake tbe clotbes into school in a sepatate bag to hang on his peg. Just do it.
Talk to headteacher. Unacceptable. Ask how often child was changed, what time etc. pkenty of Savlon on tbat bottom and leave nappy off as much as poss.

I would talk to the teacher about it and tell her that he said he did try to tell someone but wasn't listened to. Explain that you are unhappy that he was left and is now sore.

Put a spare pair of trousers and pants in his bag and tell the teacher that you are doing this.

Reassure him that it is OK and everyone forgets sometimes. I have two boys and they get so involved with something that bodily functions just don't seem to register!

Was he wearing black trousers? So they might not have been able to see? If he had grey trousers on or something that would have shown the wet then YAdefNBU.

I would let the teacher know that it had happened. I expect she will be very apologetic and will keep a closer eye on him. I suppose as you say there are a lot of needs and your ds wasnt heard. This is obviously not on but I am sure it wasn't on purpose.

i would let them know, my ds is this age and is very quiet/wont ask for help. I havent had the experience of wet but have with him being hurt and not feeling able to ask for help. As soon as i had spoke to them they kept a closer eye on him and things were much better even just someone asking him at playtime if everything is ok. Your poor ds must of been very uncomfortable and in my opinion you need some answers as to why it wasnt sorted

It sounds like a case of shyness to me...are you sure he tried to make it clear to the teacher he had wet himself?

I understand the teacher may have been busy, but if it was starting to dry and he was actually sore from it, that would indicate he had quite a bit of time in which to mention it.

If that's the case, it's not necessarily neglect but more of a communication problem.

You're right to speak to the Head, I expect the teacher will be mortified.

Sorry I meant to say, speak to the teacher before speaking to the Head.

You only really need to do that if you're not satisfied with the teacher's response.

I can understand they might not have noticed, which would be bad enough, but they didn't listen to him when he tried to tell them!? That is outrageous!

I work in reception, your post sounds worrying to me. Go to the teacher, and depending on the response, then think about talkng to the head.

The problem is, I am working tomorrow, FIL is dropping off and picking him up. So I will need to ring them, do I ask to speak to his teacher or the head teacher?

If you're phoning, ask for the teacher or LSA to call you back, they won't be able to come to the phone on demand because they'll be teaching, but you do need to get this dealt with. I have had much dealings with the school over toileting/changing as dd has continence issues. It us considered abusive practice to leave a child in wet or soiled clothing, as per the Equality Act.

Remember that DC don't always tell things as they happened. He might have been too shy to tell them and didn't want you to be cross with him?

Ask if the teacher can call you back, either at lunchtime or after school.

I would start with his teacher. She would have been there. If you don't get a response that you a satisfied with, then would be the time to speak with the head.