To have forced my DS to go under the shower at swimming?

[12ylnon]

I feel awful! It must've looked so terrible!

After swimming today i put shampoo on DS's hair (as usual) but seeing as there were only 2 showers in the swimming pool, one of the other kids took the one he was using. The shampoo started dripping into DS's eyes and he was refusing to put his goggles on while he was waiting so it got worse.

After about the 7th time the boy had turned the shower back on and said to my DS 'go and use the other one' (which had 3 kids under it) i said as calmly as i could 'Could DS use that shower now please, he's got shampoo on his hair and it's hurting his eyes'. The kid sheepishly said 'ok' and went to get changed.

Then the debacle with the shower started....

DS was screeching and shouting and wouldn't stay under the shower (he's 6 btw) saying that water hurts his eyes and then that soap hurts his eyes... i was going 'we need to wash it out so it doesn't hurt' over and over, getting more and more stressed and soaked with water. I wasn't shouting, but in the end i literally had to force him under the shower and hold him there so i could wash it out.

It was so humiliating..... probably for both of us. I know it was obviously hurting him, but DS was so stubborn and made such a scene, i was really annoyed.

WIBU to do it? I'm really not sure how else i could have handled it, but i feel really guilty now.

Nah it's just one of those things that you have to do sometimes. My DS hates having his hair washed, and I do try to keep it out of his eyes but I often don't succeed and he usually cries. Tough luck, it's either that or never washing his hair.

I never showered my son at swimming. Just came back and had a leisurely bath.

i can just imagine that would happen to me, my near 6yo is such a fuss machine about shampoo. so i dont wash it at swimming. if i had, that's exactly what i'd have done tbh. i'd have booted the shower hogger out and i'd have had to hold him still while i rinsed his eyes. i'm sure most of the other mums would have understood too. it is embarrassing though.

never showered at swimming and certainly never done any shampooing. Deal with it when you get home.

Our water is metered and heinously expensive. I was making the most of the free water

I'd stick to washing hair at home.

Why prolong the hassle of changing and showering by doing it ALL OVER AGAIN at home, just after swimming. Crazy!

I would just do it at home - much simpler.

Well I would have done it at home. But there you go. I hate public places, especially those which involve water sharing (unless its the sea) so do the bare minimum.

Saying that, you'd already shampoo'd him (you blinkin nutter, you should have shampoo'd him once you had bagsied the shower (making everyone hate you) so it was inevitable that wet hair plus shampoo plus no shower was going to start stinging a bit - and goggles in the shower???? Perish the thought!

However YANBU, no more than many a normal human being. Given the circumstances you had very choice other than to hold him under the stream until the soap was gone.

Don't feel guilty, I've firmly shoved fussing DDs in the shower after swimming. For a very long while the shower here lived in a cardboard box.

No way was I was running baths just because a small person decided to only half wash the shampoo out.

I wonder if he was a bit at you asking other boy to let him in so he screeched at the first opportunity. Kids can be embarrassed at their mum's behaviour.

You did nothing wrong. What else were you supposed to do if your child had shampoo in his eyes? I used to like using the showers there when I took my two to swimming lessons. So much easier than nagging them to get in the bath or shower when we got home. I have two boys that would happily go for days without washing if they were allowed to.

We all have showers after swimming, especially me and dd as our hair is thick and the brush will not go through unconditioned hair.

Yanbu, I have to do the same to ds

I'm another one who never showers at swimming. We go home and have a hot bath... no stressed ds then.

YANBU. You couldn't leave it in his hair, it had to be washed out. Next time he'll put his goggles on when you tell him to. For after your stressful day.

YANBU - it had to be washed off! Does he have goggles? If so leave them on then it solves the shampoo in eyes problem and they love wearing them in the shower. I always wash DS's hair after swimming, saves a job at home later and uses someone elses water!

Whoops. Sorry, just re-read the goggles bit!

don't know what choice you had really.

its not like you held his head under a bath of water! I think you have to be cruel to be kind sometimes :) I would have done the same.