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Original poster

To think my employers could of told me...

18 replies

CatsRule · 20/09/2012 16:36

That whilst I was on maternity leave my boss has changed position within the organisation and I now have a new boss?

They are quick to contact me to ask questions or whenever I can help them.

And, another colleague who is also on maternity leave was informed despite not working in the same department and this change not affecting them!

Aibu to have expected my boss...who I though was still my boss, the chief executive or hr person to have informed me of this change possibly during one of the many times they have asked for my help!?

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OldGreyWiffleTest · 20/09/2012 16:38

YABU to use 'could of'.

YANBU about the rest of it.

SlightlySuperiorPeasant · 20/09/2012 16:38

YANBU and if they keep asking for help that is not 'reasonable contact'. If you're still on ML I would be ignoring all calls from them - they can write if it's something important.

WelshMaenad · 20/09/2012 16:39

YANBU. I came back from ML after dd to find my line manager had been sacked, half if what unused to do had been outsourced and I had a completely different role! It was incredibly disconcerting!

Treblesallround · 20/09/2012 16:40

OldGreyWiffleTest is BU to be pedantic. YANBU, it would have been nice to have been told. Will you miss your old boss?

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CatsRule · 20/09/2012 16:46

I do understand that they are entitled to change my role to something equal if off for more than 6 months but what gets me is I have worked there for 5 years, volunteered free time, another department of sessional workers who are not even based in the office were all told by email and they have the cheek to ask me for help....help I didn't mind giving bit they didn't think to let me know something like this. Btw they do have my home phone, mobile number, email address and home address....there can be no excuses. It is also their policy to let staff know of job opportunities within and staff have the chance to apply if they want...I wouldn't of but that is not the point...I wasn't told of the job being advertised either. They never fail to disappoint!

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Original poster
CatsRule · 20/09/2012 16:50

She is still within the organisation Treblesallround, she wasn't a bad boss but it was probably time for her to move on. I just thought, after everything, this would be something she would tell me.

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LucieMay · 20/09/2012 17:18

It would be good practice to tell you but not essential. I came back to be working in a completely different department but we're a generic grade and can be moved anywhere they want.

OldGreyWiffleTest · 20/09/2012 18:06

Not being pedantic trebles - just saying Wink. 'Would of' is one of my pet hates - and it sounds/writes badly if you use it in business!

GoldPedanticPanda · 20/09/2012 18:13

I agree with oldgrey

5inabed · 20/09/2012 18:24

YANBU! I also have a new boss who I learned about accidently nobody actually told me it was happening. A new assistant also started in my dept 3 weeks ago and keeps trying to boss me around and imagine my surprise when the new boss (started 2 weeks ago) walked past me and asked new assistant something about MY job! Clearly because I am part-time I am invisible.

weirdlyunique · 20/09/2012 18:26

do you work at a nursery because this is all sounding familiar...

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CatsRule · 20/09/2012 19:22

I don't work in a nursery!

How did the new assistant bluff his/her way through 5inabed?

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Lambzig · 20/09/2012 19:27

You are forgetting that you are invisible when on maternity leave unless they want something (and pretty invisible when you come back part time). I had to write to hr telling them when I was coming back as my many attempts to contact my line manager fell on deaf ears.

goodiegoodieyumyum · 20/09/2012 19:44

Cats I had the same thing happen to me when I was on maternity leave, I couldn't understand why I wasn't told and was not too happy how hard is to send an email.

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CatsRule · 20/09/2012 19:56

If no one was told it wouldn't matter so much but others who haven't had contact or been phoned, text and emailed for help were told!

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5inabed · 21/09/2012 11:04

She is very organised Cats and used to have a higher role in anotehr organisation but couldn't get a job at the same level as her previous temporary one. I think she is trying to make herself indispensible. New boss is very nice though and has lots of new ideas so maybe a change for the better.

lola88 · 21/09/2012 11:10

YANBU My empolyers have done this too i spent a week leaving msgs for my manager to arrange my days to come back finally ened up calling another manager to be told she was now my manager and no one was monitoring the old managers mail box. So annoying

nipersvest · 21/09/2012 11:21

yanbu at all. but sadly, this kind of thing happens all the time. when i went on maternity leave, there were 2 of us both working at the same level, when i returned 5 months later, my boss had promoted my colleague to above me, and then told everyone else in the department to try and hide this from me. most likely because he knew what he'd done was out of order, i hadn't been told there was a promotion on offer, it was all done very underhandedly. i went back to work to find i wasn't included in meetings, or on emails that previously i would have been. when i queried what was going on with the boss, he just brushed it off and said it was all in my head. i stayed there for 4 more years and then left when we relocated as a family.

what goes around, comes around though, the girl he promoted is now in charge of the whole operation, albeit, a much diminished operation as most of it has moved to hungary, and my old boss has been made redundant and is really bitter about it, boo hoo Wink

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