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... To not want to make it up with MIL?

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simplesimone · 18/09/2012 21:36

My elderly MIL (she's 88) had a real verbal go at me earlier this year, hit me (as hard as someone that age could) and said she never wanted to see me again. I know she was under some stress at the time because FIL was poorly but I was taking lots of time off work to help them out as there is no one else apart from me and DH.
Thing is, I don't really mind not seeing her, never really liked her, I think she's stupid and stuck-up has some rather disgusting habits and it means that PIL no longer come over every Sunday so I can cook them lunch. So far, so good, from my point of view.

After over 6 months of continued slagging me off to my DH, she's suddenly talking about saying sorry - I wonder if it's because she can see Christmas looming and they want to spend it with us and the children? She hasn't apologised to me direct and, despite her age, isn't senile. Should I accept an apology and invite PIL round again for DH's sake?

OP posts:
LadyBeagleEyes · 19/09/2012 08:41

Are you sure she isn't getting senile?
88 is very old and if she'd never done anything like that before it is a possibility.

ENormaSnob · 19/09/2012 08:41

There is no valid reason for hitting someone IMO.

The woman is not senile, just stressed like most others are.

Excusing her on her age and because she is stressed is insulting. I know many elderly people that wouldn't dream of behaving like that.

cornzy · 19/09/2012 08:41

What happened when she hit you? Shock

diddl · 19/09/2012 08:42

I´d let husband have the relationship he wants with her.

I wouldn´t want him to take the kids to see her.

FIL would be welcome any time.

She hit OP & said that she never wanted to see her again-I´d take her at her word!
And it took her 6months to stop "slaggin OP off" to OPs husband??!!

Most people, on hitting someone would have been mortified & apologised immediately.

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