To think this upcoming date is significant for some unknown reason?

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Boyfriend and I are due to go and see a concert at the beginning of November. By then, we will have been together 4 months.

It's odd but I keep feeling like the date is significant - either in a bad or good way. We always have stuff going on, cinema, meals, gigs, trips - but this one he keeps mentioning. For example he'll say stuff like "How long is it until that concert? how many weeks? not long now is it?" and "You're really looking forward to that one, arent you". The date keeps sticking in my head and I get the feeling it is with him too. Naturally I'd like to think there is a good reason behind this but I'm also thinking he might be planning to finish with me after the concert - maybe he'd do it now but he feels too guilty as he knows how much I'm looking forward to it?

Reason I feel it might be bad is that he's stopped talking about stuff going on AFTER the concert. Christmas for example - he has been saying about us spending christmas together but now when I mention it, he goes quiet on me. Same with something we had planned for next year.

Am I just being paranoid? Have I created significance out of nothing for this date?

But then, if he was planning on finishing things, would he still be taking me out in the meantime like he is? why waste money on someone you're about to finish with?

Why not just ask him outright rather than guessing? You may well be overthinking this all.

Ask him.

I have form for paranoia and nagging - I'm trying desperately not to keep going on at him about stuff like this so I'd rather not ask. Was hoping people on here might see through it in some way?

Ask him if he fancies going to x (something that really interests him) after the date of the concert. See what he says?

just ask him

You are secretly hoping he has paid for the artist to pull you out of the crowd and your boyfriend is going to leap on stage, get down on bended knee and pull a ring out of his pocket, arent ya!

To me it sounds like he's just really looking forward to the gig.

I think you've answered your own question in your last post OP. May be worth finding out about relaxation techniques.

All anyone on here can do is make guesses based on the information you've given, which will just send you round even more circles than you already zooming round.

And if you've only been going out with your BF for two months and are getting this worked up about nothing, maybe he is backing off. I know it's really hard to calm down once you get fixated on something - I've been there - but it can easily become a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Arrrrgh just lost long post.

What kind of things have you been 'paranoid' about? What have you 'nagged' him about?

I get the impression everything's on his terms and you desperate to please him and keep him.

I also get the feeling he could be making you feel paranoid on purpose with this one if he really is talking about it constantly and rather oddly saying 'not long now..how many weeks' etc.

Are you ok?

2 options.

Either you ask him outright.

Or you calm down, enjoy the here and now, and stop overthinking it.

Honestly, who knows what might happen in 2 months time. He might be irritating you to fuck by then, and you might be desperate to get rid. You might be deliriously happy, you might just be somewhere in between.

I am always looking ahead, planning things months in advance. But I'm coming to realise when you're doing that you're not enjoying the now. So my advice - if you dont want to ask him directly - is just to enjoy it, and not worry about what might happen at some unspecified point in the future, in the same way as you don't worry every time you leave the house that you might get hit by a bus. I know it's easier said than done. But worth a try.