to expect to get replies re childrens birthday party invites

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looking at having to cancel party, is it wrong to only inform those of the cancelation who have replied?

Was there a date for people to reply by?

Are you cancelling due to poor numbers?

If so it's worth trying to get in touch with those that you've not heard from.

If not, then I'd definitely inform hose who have replied, but also get in touch with as many others as possible and ask people to spread the word, it might be that people just haven't got around to it yet.

I was tidying my dd's bedroom last Thursday and found an invitation for the following day. I rang the number to RSVP and explain but it was clear she didn't believe me about not knowing and only finding the invite that day. :o

Dd brought an invitation home on Friday for a party sat.

I feel your pain!
I invited a group of people from my friend group to our gathering so I could get away with having a party for my daughter. We held it on the beach and had a picnic and everyone (adults) had a great time! Only 4 littlies turned up, out of those 4, 3 were children of friends not part of the actual peer group invited. If you are going to cancel then I would only tell those who can be bothered to get back in touch!

Yes, I agree with MrsSOAK. Just tell those who had bothered enough to reply even if they declined to come. If people turn up on your doorstep, you will be able to say, "Oh, it's been cancelled. I thought you were not coming so didn't contact you." If they have made other arrangements for the adults in their family, you will be able to say, "Tough. Answer invitations in future."

did you put a date on it for replies?
was it a paper invite? (these often go astray)
I would get in touch with them if you have any other means, and ask for confirmation.

(this gets my goat too - at DS1's last party a little girl turned up whose parents had not responded to my invite. I couldnt just turn her away so I had to pay on the day for her place. GRRrr)

YANBU It has happened to me, although the majority usually positively reply, find it really rude.