To feel insanely guilty for keeping DDs with childminder while I'm on leave?

[throwinshapes]

I work 3 ten hour shifts a week. Have taken this week off.
Whether I have the girls with me or not I still pay our childminder (of course).
So AIBU for feeling guilty or AIBU for not keeping the girls with me?

How old are they?
I'd probably just send them in the morning so you can relax or clean if whatever & pick them up after lunch

Or you could go for lunch with friends or the cinema and leave them where they are

Not at all. Have some you time.
Plenty of people will come on here and tell you differently but time just for you is a rare thing and I bet you deserve it.
Enjoy.

I'm doing the same next week - my dd is going to nursery and me and hubby are off. It's only two days and we have stuff to do make dd a sibling and thought it nice to able to get on with things.
Don't feel guilty - enjoy the time :-)

No not at all. If they are happy and you've paid, the time they are away is yours. Use it as you will!

I think you have two options

1. Use time to deep clean, tidy etc so you've got time to play with dd when you get home (technically work so no feeling guilty)
2. If your going to feel guilty, you may as well crack open friends box set, with glass of wine n chocs

Seriously tho, relax, recharge
Enjoy

Why don't you have two of the sessions to yourself, and then do one of them as a special going out day? Eases off the guilt, still means you get some time to yourself.

DS goes to playschool three mornings a week so I can rest and recharge (I have a few health conditions), so certainly no judgement from me.

Yabu for feeling guilty. You pay either way, so have some "me time".

Oh thanks ladies.
Yes have given myself a long list of stuff to do round the house- so hope to be a bit productive.
They are 5 (at school) and 3 (at pre sch half day).
It will be so lovely to have 2 days (the ones while they are with CM) to crack on and get stuff done.
Ah the guilt tho

I'm a teacher and I pay my childminder to take my DS for a few days in the holidays (she doesn't charge when he's not there). It's nice to have a proper break and I can also catch up on some mundane stuff much more quickly. I also then make more effort when I do spend time with him because I've already rested and relaxed.

So YANBU.

I am a childminder and have no issues with parents leaving their children with me whilst they recharge. The children aren't bothered, its just normal routine for them.

Go for it - sod the housework and enjoy the break :)

Yanbu, stop feeling guilty and enjoy your time off. Also, make sure you make some space for a bit of 'me time' in amongst all the housework!

nokid
Maybe I'll tell her then.
Was feelin so bad I was planning on telling a fib
Would hate for anyone to feel I was a slack muvva

I am doing this next week and plan to have a big declutter on Monday Tuesday and the rest of the week farting about :) Enjoy, you deserve a break and it will definitely make you a better, lovelier Mum too!

ps I don't feel guilty at all (yet)

yabu for feeling guilty.

I always left the kids at nursery on my days off, I'd never get anything done if I didn't. I'm not going to drag them to the hospital / hairdressers / car dealers etc.

I did tend to pick them up a bit early though as I'd had chance to get organised earlier in the day.

Thanks fizzy and meg.