Is this normal behaviour or AIBU

[BobbysBeardOfWonder]

Just had the NDN & her 2 kids over for a cuppa & play. Her DC are 3 & 1, mine are 2 & 4 months.

Can people tell me if the following would be considered normal behaviour, or if I'm being a bit precious?

1. 3 yo demanding food (his mum didn't give him lunch apparently) and I'm asked if he can have dry cereal (he can see it on the worktop)

1. 3 yo proceeding to throw cereal all over sofa when disagreeing with his mum over something. His mum not telling him off (although she did clear it up)

1. NDN opening 2nd pack of biscuits without asking first (i'd gone upstairs to feed 4mo DS as he gets v distracted by noise). I wouldn't have minded anyway but normally people ask first don't they?

I know in the grand scheme of things it's not that important, but I was left feeling a bit relieved when it was home time

Oh my God the cuppa and play afternoon from hell!

No it's rude behaviour , lock the door and hide next time they knock.

what's NDN?

It doesn't sound great as in it's a bit stressful when food gets chucked, but at the same time it doesn't sound terrible either. The biscuit-opening is the worst as that is bad manners really, but if you left them out maybe she just thought they were to be opened? If she got them out of the cupboard that's a whole different issue.

To be honest, it sounds like you didn't have the sort of time you like to have and that is a fine enough reason not to want them back again, just be really polite and nice but don't invite them in future?

next door neighbour?

sounds like a lively 3 year old.
perhaps her house might be a better option.

Could she have helped herself to the biscuits because she felt at home there. That would have been a compliment.

I don't agree with the mess on the sofa happening without admonishment though. Don't babysit for those children at your house and be prepared for a mess if you babysit at theirs.

Mine would have asked for food greedy sods but I would not have asked you if that makes sense.

Although when I have people round they do usually get a drink and a biscuit asap.

Mine may have chucked stuff (more like 2 y o behaviour though) but they would have been taken straight home for it.

I certainly wouldn't have got the 2nd pack of biscuits out, only family would do that.

Oh I provided tea & biscuits, adult ones & child ones. They scoffed them within minutes.