AIBU to think he should not kick off

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My ex partner has not supported our dc financially for the past 6 years. The csa are now chasing him to pay up after many years of trying. However i,m miffed at his behaviour towards this. He becomes very irrate and abusive towards them when they call him. And refuses to engage with them at all. He even went as far as to blatently lie to them saying that he made a payment to me last month oh how I wish this was true.
He says why should he pay because he don,t live with our dc!! He regulary see,s our dc so I cannot understand why he acts this way in paying his way. Just what is his problem with this?

being abusive because you have to be asked to help maintain your child makes him a defianate cunt PooPoo. shocking thought process he has in his tiny mind.got to be honest it sometimes sticks in my throat when he picks up dc for contact and says we are off to theme park for the day. whilst im panicking about the weeks food shop and the last 12 quid in my pocket.

woop, that is classic you stealing his money to help pay for his son also, knobend. regardless that he is self employed the csa will still get him to pay. balliffs will be their next course of action on his arse. it seems that they are now cracking down on these deadbeat wasters employed or self employed. yes very fustrating but hang in there. keep on at them and they will chase him down.

No maintenance here either. An able bodied adult that doesn't care whether their own flesh and blood eats, has shoes that fit etc isn't worth scraping off the bottom of my shoe imho. LONG stopped pondering the reasons why. He is sefish - full stop.

I certainly wouldn't waste pondering his reasons - there is no justification for what is essentially child neglect. Adults are responsible for their own actions. Those that choose not to support their offspring are essentially thieving off the rest of society as the pwc usually has to resort to tax credits at the very least to make up the shortfall & keep food on the child's table. I'm totally dependent on the benefits system as DS's SN's leave me unable to work.

Removing entitlement to the state pension would be a good first step for individuals who refuse to pay CM for 5 years +. Prior to that prison for neglect would be a good start after 3 months of non-payment. Passport/driving licences/bank accounts should be frozen as a matter of course too after 3 months until any disputes over non-payment are resolved, with the non-payer sitting in jail to prevent any moonlight flits.

For anyone who thinks I'm being harsh how long do you think a pwc would escape prosecution if they swanned off to Turkey for a fortnight, leaving the kids home alone with no food in the cupboards?

My ex blames me because ds (age 13) didn't want to see him when he flew over in May. The last time he saw ds (2 years ago), he ended up shouting in ds's face and swearing at him, this was after 30 minutes. The time before (18 months) his father fell asleep in the cinema. He doesn't seem to think that he has to maintain a relationship with ds, but ds should drop whatever he's doing when he decides to see ds (usually for an hour). His father lives in Ireland (I need to get a REMO), but never calls, rarely emails, and rarely writes. I'm the 'bad one' for not allowing ds to go and spend a week with a man who makes no effort to get to know him (even though his father has said that he's either working, or looking after his other 2 children so will have no time for ds). I just can't win.