dh and I are continuing to have a tricky time.
I think we are both stressed out by life in general, work, finances, children (especially the behaviour of our 4 year old), even general chores are getting us down!
Ive felt like I may be depressed several times since having our children but GP has twice said not.
Anyway, without too much background ...
I'm not sure these things ever work with a stand alone example but the following has just happened, and I believe I'm not the one at fault and yet DH says I owe him an apology.
After a stressful swimming session with kids
First dd being awful in car and I tell dh that he needs to be more assertive/stern with her. He YELLS at her, which terrifies her. He rarely shouts and I didn't mean yell. Anyway she ends up sobbing but stupidly blows a raspberry cheekily at him and he slaps her :-(
We don't slap.
I soothe her and let it go.
We get home and his tone is off with me. I challenge this but sound like I'm nagging. In the past we've fallen out over nagging.
I go up with youngest and hear him speak to dd sharply in same tone. I over react (perhaps compensating for not reacting with slap?)
I go down and say he can't speak to her like that but know I was shouty. He turns and tells me to shut up. And I swear (I never swear!!)
This is awful as in front of the children
He turns and throws something on the flirt than was in hand, which has broken tiles. He grabs and pushes me before storming off upstairs for half an hour
I sit with the children who to be fair seem unbothered by the drama?!!
He comes down half an hour later but cross at me for nagging and swearing
We calmly talk but he doesn't change this view. I know we have issues to work out or walk away from, we want it to work, but I genuinely don't know how to work at things if our view are so different on this sort of stupid squabble