Advise needed please

[Abigail9580]

I really need some advice on how to deal with my mother-in-law!!

My mother in law lives about 7 miles away but I really don't see her very much. Not my doing really, she always says she is busy when I try to pop round. Anyway my son is now 4 weeks old, she has only seen him 4 times since he was born, as she has been busy. (he is the first grandchild)

All these times have been for about 30 mins at our house. She is now pressurising me to leave him with her over night so that I can get some rest. ( I am very lucky my baby sleeps for 5-6 hours straight most nights) I do realise she is trying to be helpful, but I really don't feel comfortable about leaving him with her in my house for an hour let alone a night at her house. He doesn't know her at all and I know all I would do is lie in bed worring about him!!

But I don't know how to tell her this without coming across as an ungrateful so and so. I have tried explaining my concerns but she just said I was being over sensitive and that my son needed to get use to being left.

Any advice would be great, thanks xxx

At 4 weeks old, you are being perfectly reasonable to not want to leave your DC overnight yet, just tell her you're not ready.
However, I think complaining that she's only seen him once a week might be a little bit U, that seems a reasonable amount to me?

4 weeks old and she thinks he should be having sleepovers with her already!!!!

She's bonkers!!!

even if she was a young granny, all clued up on modern childcare, with all the right equipment, smoke alarms etc, 4 weeks is way too young!!!!

tell her you'd be grateful for a coupl of hours babysitting while you go out for a coffee/to the hairdressers maybe? But even then ywnbu to not even do that for another few months!

Too young. And really its entirely up to you. Say no.

Make a stand now or you will be forever dealing with dilemas like this.

He doesn't 'need' to get used to being left at 4 weeks old! Is this because you may be going back to work and you'll have to leave him then?

Just say No Thank You. Very kind, but No Thank You.

And repeat.