To expect other parents not to swear?

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Stood chatting to my dd aged 6 and waiting for her riding lesson to begin. 4 adults (2 parents, 2 grandparents) discussing various car deals they are tryin to do with their taxi firm, very loudly using the f word in every sentence. Lots of other inappropriate language being thrown about. Would have gladly moved but no other place to stand.
These people are new to the riding school, very full of themselves, trying to do a deal r.e hay to get out of paying full price, their dc disrupting lesson causing my own dds to be 35 mins late.
Riding school owner and tutor very nice, known her for years was very polite r.e asking them not to interrupt lesson etc but had not heard the swearing.
I am def no snob; riding school is family run and not the horsey set type at all. Bern coming here years and love it. But don't particularly want my daughter hearing expletives constantly being used?

What was their response when you asked them to stop?

You may not like it, but theres nowt much you can do about it.

She'll hear as bad if not worse in the playground

horse riding? outside? field? open air? NO place else to stand?

am afraid nothing you can do. it wasnt a queue to see barney.

Was a coward and didn't ask them to stop cause hate confrontation. I know I shouldn't moan if not willing to approach them but am shocked (& prob naive) to think that parents and grandparents would speak like this in front of their own & other people's children.
Yes open air and field but only one corner in which to view / stand. Couldve say in car but dd was unsure when her lesson would start because of the delay caused by this family so had to wait on the field.

The delays are up to the school to sort. Complain if you are unhappy with the delay.
Yabu to moan about adults choosing to swear especially when you don't tackle it at the time. People swear, I suspect your child will hear worse in the coming years at school.

YANBU.

However, your DD is old enough (I also have a 6yo) to be told that fuck is an outrageously rude word and never to be used by children. You can tell her that she does not hear you using it because you are polite and teachers would be disgusted to hear it etc. You can tell her that some grown ups do choose to do it, but in your family you don't because...insert reasons.

I would also add that most 6yos have overheard this word somewhere. Even school.

Some people don't see swearing as an issue.

Yabu, if you aren't prepared to confront or stand somewhere else.

Ours is a swearing family, I swear around DC all the time, always have, doesn't cause any problems. If you don't want her to hear swearing I'd remove her from school, public transport or in fact most public places.

Yep not much you can do about the way people choose to speak to their kids or in general.. was out yesterday with dd and this woman came past shouting to a toddler (in the middle of a busy shopping centre full of parents and kids)'you fg little sh come back here you f c. lovely. lets just say she got a LOT of looks and tuts from passers by. poor kid. but what can you do? in the past ive put headphones on dd when we're on the rush hour bus but cant keep them immune to wherever they hear this stuff. its the norm now isnt it? i just say to mine 'if you dont hear me say it i dont want to hear you say it'. Only thing i like about Boris Johnson is his 'jolly by jove hockey sticks' language, but unfortunately we dont live in Enid Blyton world. ive heard trashy talk in the playground and even though newsletters urge decent talk they don't take any notice. I sympathise and yanbu.

YANBU, but I don't know how you could change the behaviour of foul-mouthed adults.

Swearning isn't allowed on the premises that my DD rides in.

It is private land and the owners can insist on standards of behaviour, so you can take it up with them if you wish to do so.

I'm in Liverpool, swearning is rife, i swear, but i don't see why it cannot be reigned (sticking with the horse theme) in, when children are attending activities.

If children are allowed to swear in your children's schools, you should be taking that up with the head, tbh.

That is the point, most people swear, but there are times and places that you don't.

My dd goes to lots of activities (dancing, piano, skating, swimming etc) and I've just never heard this particular word said in front of a group of young children.
She attends an independent school and if any child swore they would immediately receive a fixed term exclusion (parents would be spoken to by head if they used such language on the premises).
I know that she will inevitably hear such words and we have told her that some people choose to use them, but I really cannot understand why intelligent adults would wish to use such language in front of young children (maybe I do need to move to Enid Blyton land)?

I was in mcdonalds last week and three teenagers were f-ing and blinding at the next table and I said "excuse me, there are children around" and they stopped.

I think YABU a bit. If you have an issue with it, move away out of earshot, or politely ask them to stop swearing.

I do understand that you don't want her to hear swearing but to be perfectly honest, as others have said, that's impossible. Also, swearing to me really is NOT a big deal. They are just words. You give more power to those words by being precious about it.

Meh

She will hear worse at school.