To have removed my DS's privilages and treats for a week?

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Or should I have done more?

my parents have just been round to visit and my 7, almost 8, year old DS was incredibily rude to them.
He was out playing with friends when I told him to come in and talk to grandma and grandpa. He said he didn't want to (obviously because he was playing), so I told him that he only had to for 5 mins and then he could go back out. He then put on a stroppy face and when my dad asked him what the face was for he told them it was because he didn't want to talk to them, so I (rather stupidly) asked him why not, to which he replied, because I don't like them, they're stupid (can I just add that at this point my dad said, well you're stupid too - which wasn't helpful imo).
I should point out that he's been this way with them everytime he sees them for a while now. Sometimes I sympathise with him (I find them difficult), and maybe he's picked up on this?

Anyway, the upshot is, I've taken away all treats (crisps, cake, etc) and privilages ( TV, computer, cd player etc) for a week.

What do you reckon? Is this enough? And any suggestions for improving their relationship are happily received :)

You find them difficult but manage to be polite (I assume) so should he. He is old enough to not be so rude.

Thanks again for the replies. I do accept some responsibilty for him being so rude, I will definitely be more careful in future how I talk about my parents when he's around.

claraschu your reply made me laugh! My parents are definitely part of the problem. Can you believe that despite only living 3 miles away and being fit and healthy, they didn't offer to take my DS' out once during the 6 weeks of the holiday and then my dad moaned at me that they hadn't seen them for 3 weeks so could I bring them round? They have told me in the past that it is my job as a parent to bring the GC round to see them, the GP's.

Sorry, now I'm digressing. As an update, he's been really good this evening and is making an effort to help and be nice. I'm hoping that this might stretch to drawing a 'sorry' card, but after reading some of the replies I think maybe I should now just let it go and move on. Some adjustments to my behaviour and a few days (if the good behaviour continues) with no privilages are enough.

Maybe your parents and him need to have some bonding time alone and do some fun things.

I think I would have sent him straight to his bedroom and left him there for a long time. Would have told him he wasn't allowed to play with friends again this week.

if he is being very good and reasonable talk to him about happened and why it was not acceptable but that you understand how he felt etc.

It is also not to late, with him, to make a deal that if he makes an effort in future to be nice to them you will also and leave the punishment out this one time.

As long as he is old enough and grown up enough to understand he should show some respect in how acts towards them regardless of he feels about them.