To want to meet up with fellow mums on the weekend?

[mamabellasworld]

As I work out of the house full time and have little time and energy to spare for meeting up with other mums and their kids during the week, I'd love to do so on the weekend.
Go for a coffee or take the kids somewhere fun. And have the opportunity to chat with other mothers, exchange experiences and generally have a good time. I don't expect anyone to devote entire days to me, I'm thinking a few hours on a Saturday or Sunday.
But now I started wondering if this is a terribly unusual or even unreasonable thing to ask.
As it turns out, for most mums I know the weekend seems off limits as far as spending time outside the nuclear family goes. Weekend is exclusively family time, no friends, just family.
How do you handle your weekends?
Are they exclusive family time or do you meet up (at leat occassionally) with other mums?

I have always worked FT, so when DS was little I didn't know any of the parents from nursery or school. As you say, it was impossible to arrange meeting anyone at weekend, which kid in tow, as most of them didn't work, so they liked to reserve the weekend to do things with their husbands as a family. Perfectly understandable, but it did make it quite difficult for my DS as arranging play dates was basically impossible. In the end, I changed my working hours to ensure I had one afternoon free a week. I still didn't make any mum friends, as I had nothing in common with the mums, but at least I was able to invite the children round to play which made a big difference for DS.

I sent a text round to some mums last Sunday in my dds class saying lets meet up for a picnic in park at 3. We did and kids held Olympic races. It was fun. We also went for spa and sauna yesterday whilst kids were having a birthday party. We get to chat and kids get to play. It's good fun.

I'm on ML and the only people in the area that I know I've met through ante-natal classes or baby groups. I've met some nice people but they never want to meet at the weekend and my DH works shifts so I'm on my own (with the baby!) all weekend every week. It does get depressing tbh.

YANBU!

I'd never really thought about it until my STBEX H left last year. But, yes, weekends do seem to be exclusively 'family time' for all my friends, who all happen to have DC, old friends and more recent ones. It is really hard, and quite lonely at the weekends, either just me and my DC, or just me on my own. STBEX H is happy with the OW, they get a family weekend and a 'free' one together.

I have found this too OP, my dh works shifts so weekends mean very little in our house, he can be dayshift or nightshift and there isn't a regular set pattern. So if he is working sat or sun I often find myself alone with the kids as everyone else's weekends are family times (ESP for those with a mon-fri working dh). I work pt and see lots of "mum friend" on my days off but never at weekends as they keep them free for dh time! It is also murder trying to get together either with mum friends minus the kids or with friends with no kids, as my dh isn't always around to take the kids! So they can all get out eg on a Saturday night but I often can't!
I have one friend whose dh works weekends sometimes too, so if they are both working the same day we quite often get together with all the kids. But there is no way I'd see her on a Sunday!

I agree op. I am a single mum. While on mat leave i cd meet up with other mums and kids but now am working fulltime. Part of reason for getting nanny was so dd1 cd have playdates during the week at least. At wewekend i see other single mums, or mums whose dhs are away travellimg or working. One xception is a friend who i,ve known forever and whose dh crucially positively lkes socialising outside the nuclear family. Otoh i have what i thought was a good friend who i have not seen with her kids at weekend for about three yrs cos weekend is family time. I can understans wanting at least one day but not even having an odd morning to spend with other families seems a bit odd to me.

Lucky you to have friends who don't have kids!!! I'm often having a coffee/wine with other mums at the weekend. sons also like playing with their friends so its easy entertainment for me. Dh is away at the moment so I like meeting up and having adult conversation. Ds1 is normally doing some sporting activity aswell but we are inbetween seaso at the moment so have both sat and sunday lie ins!!!!!

YANBU, however we pretty much don't see DH through the week, so weekends together are pretty precious, all our families work as well so along with the 4 of us we only get to spend time with them on the weekend as well.

I am up for going out without the kids or for having people over, but not for the Mum chat stuff, that is pretty much a weekday activity for me.

At the weekends I meet up with other mothers who work sometimes, yes. Either just me and just one of the DCs (age match) or we all go as a family.

People are pretty busy at weekend usually.

I don't really see my friends during the day at weekend, it's more likely to be a Friday night for a glass bottle of wine.

I see my 'mum friends' during the week and the weekends are usually spent as a family, or having (non-mum) friends visiting. I work evening shifts 4 times a week so can see very little of DH and my BC (before child) friends all live elsewhere as we moved. TBH the baby group lot don't really ever suggest weekend meet ups, other than birthday parties.