to not go sightseeing with my visitors?

[MousyMouse]

have visitors from abroad, live in london.
have done sight seeing many a times and cannot be bothered to be frank. plus have a stinking cold and wanted to have a rest.
they speak english and are able to use the tube map.
aibu?

YANBU.

YANBU, we have quite a few visitors each year, and I tend to leave them to their own devices. It would be different if it was a visitor on their own, then I would go out and about with them, but if more than one, they can entertain themselves (unless of course its somewhere I want to go).

Yes and rude. Have a lemsip. Woman up and go.

Of course YANBU. You're their host, not their tour guide. Surely if you're all staying together a little bit of time apart is a good thing.

depends how close friends they are, and how much you enjoy their company

I had friends over from the USA last week, one of whom had never been to London before, and I went out with them. I find it quite fun doing touristy stuff even though I live here. It can be nice seeing it through the eyes of a visitor rather than just taking it for granted.

We went on one of the open top buses, and also a thames cruise and it was much more interesting than I expected.

I think it would be nice if you went out with the some of the time

Depends who they are to you and what their expectations are. There should really be a discussion between you and them else it could come as shock to them as you wave them off in the morning.

YANBU since you don't feel well.

Def not BU with a stinking cold. Otherwise it depends on lots of circumstances. I can imagine if you live in London you'd get fed up of doing the usual touristy things, but if you don't I wouldn't think you'd need a tour guide - there's something interesting round every corner (in my limited experience of it).
Grrrrr. I want to go to London now.
Could I come and stay with you next weekend. Would you mind awfully? :o

YANBU at all - personally I love the freedom of wandering round a city by myself - I think if someone is acting as my guide I feel obligated to see and do certain things, whereas by myself I can go through all the weird stuff I want to do.

Also, I've never met anyone who isn't incredibly chuffed to get free digs in London for a while

I think you should rest up and then arrange a few days later in the week when you can do something together.

Leave them to it, unless you have told them you'd be a tour guide.

YANBU. Have done all the touristy things many times now, and taken my visitors to that hell hole that is Oxford Street so they can do a bit of shopping a million times over (like there isn't another Next, Monsoon or Debenhams in the rest of the country ffs)!

Now I welcome people to stay by cheerily telling them to buy an oyster card at Heathrow and put a tenner on, and when they get here I'll give them a spare key and some clean towels, point out the guest room, the fridge and the kettle, and recommend some things to see and to do, but I don't offer to go with them anymore unless it's a single person that I want to spend time with.

I send guests off to do the Tower and the museums and Covent Garden and all that by themselves, but may join in for something lower-key like breakfast at Borough Market and a walk along the South Bank if it is sunny, stopping for coffee at the National Theatre or a cold beer at the BFI. And then go home and leave them to it for the rest of the day.

Sightseeing is extremely tiring and wears you out fast. I'd stay home and save my energy for making them tea/dinner when they get in!

escaped it for today, had a nice snooze in the garden wrapped up in many blankets.
silent treatment for dinner, though.
we are doing a river cruise tomorrow. I think I can just about manage to drink a nice cuppa whilst tourist spotting...

maybe they just want to spend time with you

they can spend time with me at home? after all they are to visit me and my family.
I don't want to go up st pauls for the 5th time or to oxford street or...

If I was visiting a friend amd coming from abroad I'd be quite hurt they didn't want to spend time with me.

I want to spend time with them, just don't want sight seeing.

I've had guests all arsing summer and YADDNBU. You are not on holiday, they are.

Guests often underestimate the cost of fuel, food and drink so taking them on day trips can be very expensive.

I literally can't do the tourist thing anymore. Current guests have just had to live around me DH and DS. I still produce all the meals and drinks!

When I have stayed with other people in the past I've always felt uncomfortable if they've given up lots of their time for me.

Get on with your life, politely and friendly, you are not a tour guide!

It's fine if you're clear that you don't want to site-see anymore. A lot of folks cannot as they have to work and gets lots of visitors.

YABU. They want to spend time with you out and about doing interesting things, not just see you at home. If they'd just wanted to look around without you they'd have booked a hotel.

YANBU.
. I think it works best when visitors go out, have a lovely day, come home to a happy host and have an enjoyable chatty evening discussing their day.

(St Paul's 5 times, that was my limit too)

Yanbu - it costs a bloody fortune, too, all to go places that are dull for you! Maybe devote one day to taking them to a hidden gem that's a favourite of yours, though.

they gave you silent treatment over dinner, bloody rude did you cook for them?

I would not expect a host to be at my side every waking moment, I would expect them to be welcoming and not seem put out and would like to spend some time with them.

Maybe introduce me to a nice restaurant/cafe or coffe shop and somewhere that is thier favourite place to see. I would also do something special for thier efforts for putting me up and arrange a night in with a meal cooked by the guest and either a few drinks or a low key film night. that is a reasonable amount of involvment without expectation to be living each others pockets.