about my DM and alcohol?

[IKnowItsMyFaultBut]

I have a problem with drink. I know I do. It's nobodies fault but my own. I've been pretty much teetotal for a month. My DM knows all about this.

AIBU to want her to not constantly offer me booze when I go round there? She drinks a lot, but I don't want to. If I say anything she'll accuse me of blaming her for my problems.

Then let her accuse you

But be very firm when you say, "Please don't offer me any alcohol as I've given it up - thanks."

Well done by the way for abstaining.

Just can't face the argument when she accuses me of being a drama queen. I wouldn't mind but my step dad drank himself to death. You'd think she'd learn by now!

Face the argument...it'll be worth it.

If she starts, just don't engage or suddenly remember an appointment or something.

It's impossible to argue with someone who refuses to argue back.

She wants you to drink with her as it normalizes her alcohol intake. She's thinking about herself and not you. Well done OP for abstaining.

she wants you to start drinking again like her. Text her beforehand and say you don't want her to offer you any drink at all. If she kicks off, say you wont come.

Can't you just say 'no thanks, I'd perfer tea' ?

She might just be used to offering or it be the 'done thing' to offer a visitor an alcohol beverage.

Isn't this a bit like when you are a smoker, give up and then find yourself constantly being offered cigarettes? I think they (and she) only do it because they feel guilty and inferior because of your willpower. What you need to say is, "No thank you, I won't join you in a drink. Do you want to join me in a cup of tea?". Well done. As the child of an alcoholic mother, I applaud you. You are not only changing your life, but that of any children you have / might have.

Can you take a nice bottle of non alcoholic drink with you?

Well done on giving up. You can't fight her battles but you've done well with your own