To ask why we like conflict?

[Iburntthecakes]

I love AIBU.

However, I realise that IABVU as deep down or perhaps not that deep really I think this is because something in me likes the conflict. Looking at a few threads where the OP is clearly BU and people are settling in to enjoy, I can't be the only one.

I find this somewhat disturbing and can't really explain it. In RL I'm much more of a peacemaker. I also don't like to think of myself as taking pleasure in others distress however unreasonable they might be

Any theories?

We get to assert our view on right and wrong, and that is stimulating and satisfying too.

I can't bear conflict, and I'll deck anyone who says otherwise.

Sometimes arguing a point can help you to clarify it in your own mind.

It's also interesting to hear other points of view, especially those which make you realise you haven't thought yours through properly.

I'm a lot less prickly on here than I am in RL.

I love like to have a shufty at other peoples barneys, but don't like it directed at me - unless it's something I feel really strongly about, which thankfully doesn't come up that often.

I agree some of it is disturbing, but I don't mind a bit of disturbing sometimes, it takes my mind off the things in RL that are freaking me out, which is just about everything tbh

tethersend

Goldmandra and Chandellina that makes sense - and makes me feel more reasonable :)

I hate conflict. But I like getting different perspectives on things and trying to change the world for the better (which is subjective of course!)

It's a safe kind of conflict.

I know a lot of people don't like the 'freedom' anonymity can give on the net, but it can be good thing if the person is really constrained in everyday life, for whatever reason.

I actually don't like conflict, but I think it's good to have your views challenged at times- either it helps you cement your reasoning and why, or you alter your viewpoint to some or greater extent.

it would be a boring old world if everyone agreed on everything. (but I hate when people get snarky and abusive!)

Whenever I have posted on AIBU (not very often!) I have been genuinely interested in what other people think. I have rarely had a proper pasting, tbh- probably because I usually quickly accept I am/ am not being U and the thread dies a natural death!