To wish DH was at home?

[Moominsummermadness]

I'm over 39 weeks pregnant. DH likes to have a drink on a Friday night, usually we all go to either his brother's or sister's houses, but recently I've preferred to stay at home as quite frankly I find it boring sitting there while him and his family get drunk.

A couple of months ago, DH and I had a conversation about him drinking around my due date. He assured me that when the time came around, he'd stay in around my due date. However, the minute he got a call today, he started planning his evening.

To begin with, I was ok about him going to his brother's, all his family were going, and I was looking forward to possibly having a better night's sleep with the bed to myself, as he's staying over. The problem is, now I'm on my own, I feel really anxious. I'm sure I won't go into labour, but I feel a bit crampy and I don't know what I'll do if it all kicks off- I can call him to come home, but don't want a drunken birth partner!

I am really making a mountain out of molehil, aren't I?

No. He shouldn't be getting pised when the wife is 39/40

No - it's out of order, is he meant to drive you to hospital? It's fine for him to go out, but not to drink.

Well I'm only 31wks and I'm fed up being in alone as DP has gone out drinking. I stayed in all day to sign for deliveries and have spoken to no-one except my toddler!

You definitely within your rights to be pissed off. Men have no clue what it's like to be pregnant.

YANBU. You could go into labour at any point (DS appeared at 37 weeks, we were not prepared!), ask your DH how he would feel if he missed the birth cause he was drunk.

Please let him know how you feel.

You are not making a mountain out of a molehill.

I'm having a home birth, I did ask him what he would do if he'd had a drink and I needed to be transferred in, he just said that he would get a taxi (hospital is 5 mins away). He's missing the point that I don't want him to be drunk when I'm in labour! Thinking about asking my mum to be a back-up birth partner.

I'm in the same boat - 38 + 3 and he's on a lads night out. Feel a bit sad and abandoned. He doesn't go out often but...anyway OP, sympathy - I know how you feel

YANBU. I would be majorly pissed off.

My bil went off on a weeks golfing holiday when sil was 38 weeks pg. selfish twat.

I would ask your mum to be a back up. You do not want a drunk birthing partner.

I have told him how I feel, he called me half an hour ago and I got upset on the phone. He said he was pacing himself, but he took 2 bottles of wine with him! His family don't help- binge drinking is normal to all of them.

Oh Homebirth - lovely. I had a homebirth. DH was very very busy in my labor filling up the pool, making tea... cleaning up my sick.... I would not have been happy if he was at all drunk.

Your DH needs to be in top form.

Cramps is a good sign :)

I had a home birth last time, and he was brilliant. Having done that role already, you'd think he'd be taking it a bit more seriously!

Looks like I'm not the only one on this position then! The way I look at it is if I can go 9 months without drinking, he should be able to manage a couple of friday nights without!