Being mad because the bastard went to the pub 3 nights in a row?

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He always complain that when he works 14 hours a day he doesn't have time for family life. Than he finishes at 4 for three days in a row and decided to go to the pub and get drunk. I'm angry because after working 10 hours a day I'm left alone with dd (5) doing the housework while he is getting drunk. Problem is he used to this a lot when I was pregnant and things just starting getting better october last week. Now is going down hill again...AIBU

YANBU

YANBU

YANBU.

I hate this view that men work, then go down the pub.

I'm glad that my DP has no interest in finishing work and going glugging a pint.

He called me when he just left the work and I couldn't pick up as I was cooking and phone was far. Tried to call back around 6 times, got through voice mail than left a txt. Than he called me from his boss phone and I could tell he was pissed so was his boss who was talking over him so I hanged up. Boss calls me and stars talking to me so I hang up on his face. Than bastard keeps calling me while I'm busy giving dd shower and hanging up clothes to dry and I keep saying I'm actually busy doing things for the family, tell him to not bother coming home and I can pack his shite and send it to his boss's house or wherever he is going to. He says he is with his 'boss' (who cares?) Talking about 'work'....and I say if it is necessary do it at the pub, getting drunk? Is his boss more important than dd? I can understand if it was 1 night only, but 3 in a row? I know they are going through changes at work but this is not excuse. I want a responsible man. I'm expecting another big fight tonight.

Sorry my OP is a mess. Things started to get better october last YEAR. And only because I called 999.

Why did you call 999?

Because he came drunk, woke me up to have a 'conversation'. I learnt the hard way you can't reason with a drunk person so I asked him please to let me sleep because I had work next day (and so did him) but he wouldn't leave me alone and started talking about our issues (but when he is sober he never wants to talk about issues only when drunk). So when things started getting heated I went to dd's bedroom and laid with her on the top of the bunk bed because I thought he would respect her space. He camewin the bedroom wanting to fight and I kept ignoring wishing him to go away, dd was awake at this point when he punched the bed and she got scared and started crying. I than called 999 and he was mocking me didn't believe I had the nerve. When he saw me talking to the person on the line he begged me to put the phone down and I did but the police found our address and came anyway. Two officers had a talk to each one of us and I received some support afters with promises of more support in case I wanted to split but things got a lot better but he won't change his essence him? Since I got pregnant I feel single mother as he was either working, drinking or sleeping...than he doesn't understand why I don't love or respect him anymore, why I don't want sex...it is not rocket science is it? And when I thought life was in the men up yet again. What makes me angry is that we had this conversation yesterday and now he goes and do it again, how stupid is it?

Y'know OP it might be better to get this moved to relationships, you'll get much better advice and stuff there. X

So no fight tonight. He came home half hour ago and said he was ever so sorry he was with his 'boss' talking about 'work'. I than said I don't care if he was with the pope or the queen, he shouldn't have gone, specially after our conversation last night (making plans for the future or talking about having a hobby together whit out dd). He admits he was wrong and went to the bedroom (no shower or brush teeth) laid on bed and called dd. After while I went to check and he was asleep and dd with the ipad. I than told him that this is not 'spending time together' in my books and told him I would not be sleeping there because of his smell. Put the Ipad away and called dd to spend time with me.

YANBU jerk

He says he's sorry but he still did it again tonight, hope he changes his behavior and you work through things of that's what you really want x

Yep he says he is sorry but he has being doing it for 5 years so I should get the message.

He seriously needs to sort himself out.

There's only one person here who has no choice to live in this situation and that's your poor DD.

He needs to shape up or ship out and you need to stop putting up with it.

Er, weird? Does he have any redeeming qualities?

YANBU! Sounds like a prat. Why do you keep putting "boss"? Do you not think that's who he's with?

Because the 'boss' has a senior role at his work and is above him but is not his boss, more like a supervisor. He kept saying boss to make me think it was important for him to go and socialise with the guy but I don't give a shit. He says boss just to add more impact on his poor excuse and it just makes me realize he is even more idiot than I ever thought he was. I took my wedding band from my finger and is not coming back. The marriage has been on the rocks for a long time now and even though he doesn't want to separate again I made the decision to sacrifice myself for dd. Sorry dd. I can't do this anymore.