AIBU to be annoyed when people respond to...

[Pickles101]

AIBU to be annoyed when people respond to...

"I'm not a very big drinker" with "well we'll have to get you drunk then"?

just went to the pub to get to know new classmates and had a coke. When asked why I wasn't drinking, I told them I didn't really drink a lot of booze (also not drinking because BF'ing but pre-DD was never a big drinker anyway, plus it was 3pm!)

AIBU to be annoyed with the reply (don't particularly like vomming in a gutter for fun, did enough vomming when DD was a bun), or did they just not know how to keep the conversation going after I dropped that bombshell.

Only really annoyed me because this is the third or fourth time it's been said by different people when asked why I'm not boozing (pre & now post DD)

Or am I just antisocial

YANBU

Although I have never heard any respond that way.

Yanbu. Why can't the response just be 'oh ok then'?

Normally my conversation goes:

'Are you having a drink'
'No'
'why not? Just one?'
'no thanks I don't really like alcohol'
'you don't like alcohol' feigns horror
'no, I'm happy with coke'
'YOU DON'T LIKE ALCOHOL?'
'nope'
'how about coke and vodka'
'no, I don't like the taste of alcohol'
'what about coke and Malibu'

REALLY?!
... Gets annoying everytime you go out with different groups.

Yanbu I've had this many times and pre dc. I'm not a big drinker but I abstain during the day entirely as I become comatose after 1 drink!

Oh I used to get this. Solved it by not having any friends or socialising.

Works a treat. And you don't have to talk to drunk people, either, that way.

I'm not being facetious btw - I only really speak with parents at school, that's my social whirl - and even then you get pressure to go out for nights with them and get a bit pissed for fun. And it's very hard to get out of those. Everyone seems to think you're weird.

Tell you what, you lot sound like you need a good piss up.

Some people HAVE to drink it seems.

I was on antibiotics one Christmas and one particular friend kept going on and on about how sorry he felt for me and how awful it was. He seemed to think it was the worst thing to ever happen. I wasn't hugely bothered.

A good response is the following:

Ahem....

"A drink? Awwww, that's sweet but I don't find your company that unbearable. I reckon I'll cope sober."

Obviously that's only to be said to the ones who go on and on about it.

Some people also feel uncomfortable drinking when no one else is.

YANBU

Deep down they may feel vulnerable - if you are sober when they are drunk, what might they do that you'll remember?

They are worried about their own drinking - they are thinking by not drinking yourself, you are judging them

They have the mistaken belief that you have to drink to be a fun person/have fun

I get this from my family.

I've been told I "need to build up my tolerance"

been given guidelines on how to do it too!

Thanks for all the YANBU's guys I feel much better about it now that I know that I'm actually quite normal and not a frigid antisocial bitch out to ruin people's fun

MrsRaj, I think I will use that reply myself in future!

Feminine, tolerance!? Guidelines!? That's awful of them