to feel bad for not working ... just yet

[newmummytobe79]

I saved like a maniac when on ML and still have a bit of savings left now.

DH is doing ok at work so we're surviving - we're not rich or poor but the bills are paid, we have food and clothing and can afford the odd treat still - which I'm very thankful for.

I had to leave my job as it wasn't mum friendly and I didn't want to have to work away from home during the week. Plus the hours I worked would have meant I'd never see my DC except at weekends.

I've been looking for suitable roles for the past few months but haven't found anything as yet. I'm also looking at doing some freelance/temping/work from home.

EVERYONE I see keeps asking me when I'm going back to work, and although I plan to (and hope I can find something soon!) - I feel guilty for not going back straight away.

If we can afford for me to stay at home for a few more months - is it really that bad?

I just feel that everyone around me thinks I'm living the life of riley sat on my arse when in all honesty we aren't cash rich and I'm budgeting like mad. And ... being with your DC on a daily basis is bloody hard work!

Of course it's not that bad if your dh is supporting you! You are looking for work, doing some, and caring for your child, not sitting on your arse doing nothing.

Ah, don't worry! I agree, you are definitely working, and looking for work, and doing freelance - you must be doing pretty busy!

If it were me, I'd just say when people ask 'oh, I am currently freelancing on x project'.

I think you're being a bit over sensitive to be honest - unless you are actively referring to yourself as a SAHM, or that you are happy to be able to stay at home I think it's a fair question. From your post although you're enjoying it at the moment you DO want to go back to work so it's just a normal question. Really sounds like you're reading something into it that's not there!

if your happy and your family are happy whats the problem i have al;ways worked full time not really through choice but because i,m the main wage earner. would ideally like to go part time but thats not possible do whats best for your family.

When people ask just say "I haven't bloody STOPPED!" and change the subject.

YANBU. It's not up to anyone else to judge and it's entirely your choice how you spend your time.