To walk out and tell them to go f**k themselves

[Arabellasmella]

Hvaing a horrible time at the moment. My friend and colleague of 11 years committed suicide two weeks ago. I believe that work pressures were one of reasons she did it, although not solely. We've been having a really shit time at work for the last 3 years since our company was taken over . I hate them and i want to leave but i don't have a job to go to, despite looking for a long time. it was her funeral yesterday but i'm not feeling any better, still crying all the time. while i've been off theyve decided i have to move offices so today i'm supposed to go in and start moving years worth of stuff, and next week i'll be bang into the busiest time of our year, wityhout any preparation, and a head that feels stuffed with treacle. i feel like i just can't do it, but my husband doesn't want me to leave until i've found another job. Was wondering about getting signed off sick but worry that it will affect future applications. What i really want to do is never go in there again, but we rely on the money for mortgage etc...
what to do??

Oh I'm so so sorry for your loss.

If it was a supportive workplace I'd suggest going in and just being with colleagues who may share your upset? But as it's not - sick leave. Future employers will understand, you can note it was a bereavement - they tend to worry more about lots of one day sickess than 1 period of a block.

Be kind to yourself :)

Yes, I agree with basically. Take the time off sick if you need it. Perhaps go in today to move your stuff if yuppie can manage it (I'd hate the idea of someone else going through my stuff and its something that won't take much focus) but see if you can get an appointment booked and get signed off.

I'm so sorry for your loss.

Go the the GP now and tell them all about it. It sounds like you need some sick leave to me. Too much all at once. So sorry about your friend.

In order to protect your family and your mortgage payments, recognise that you cannot cope with work at the moment. Go and see your doctor. They will probably sign you off for 2 weeks or 4 weeks to start with. This will give you breathing space.

Nowadays, employers are less likely to ask about sickness on application and are more likely to arrange for you to see a nurse/doctor after you have been accepted. If you can explain your absence as a grief related depression, it is highly unlikely to have a negative impact.

I was bullied at work, and what i should have done is taken a good 3 months off but only took a week for the concerns you had. In the end i resigned. I have to say though, no subsequent employer has asked any serious questions or investigated sickness.

Today, I would email them and tell them to put everything in a box and move it to the new space.

Thank you. I went in and ended up having a big cry and a rant at the bosses. Told them I wasn't coping. But did manage to clear out the offices. Not at work on Monday so if i'm still not feeling any bgetter i'll go see the doctor.

I am so very sorry for your loss Arabella. I agree with PP who have said to take the sick leave and not worry about it, I went on sick leave because of workplace bullying and found my next job whilst off sick. I was upfront and explained exactly why inwas on sick leave and they were fine with it, offered me the job anyway and no special extra probation or anything.