Every christmas I have grown up with no christmas in my house always at others,parenst made no effort , I have come to except this ever since I was in my late teens.
My dp has a very close family,last year his mums parents died and this year is going to be hard for her as they are not here,she has a partner.
I have a sil who also has a close family she takes turns with mil and her family,so this year she wants us to have xmas dinner togther to leave and then she will go to her parents for tea.
Meaning now we have to go for dinner and then pil are left on there own for tea,and we have to fit in with plans arghh.
I'm not happy as when we get together all our kids argue,fight and one year dd was taken out of the room and caused an argument,its competive and sil does not like me and its tense.
Im left to deal with it whilst everyone pees off and makes excuses,my dp goes of to cook leaving me to it.I end up feeling unhappy.
I feel bad as my family dont care and it shows ,I find it all overbearing and in my face ,I dread it so aibu and selfish and what should I do.