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Original poster

To take the boy I nanny to doctors?

40 replies

Dordeydoo · 13/09/2012 19:06

Today I took the little baby boy (8months) to an emergency appointment at the doctors - he has a cold and was sounded very chesty and I thought his breathing wasn't right. I made the appointment, rang his mum and informed her, all ok at the time of phone call.

Mum returned home and asked how it went etc told her all details. Dad came home mid convo and told me I was being over cautious and he didnt need to go.

Baby and I returned with amoxoclilin

Was I being unreasonable??

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cheekybarsteward · 13/09/2012 19:07

No.

Sneezecakesmama · 13/09/2012 19:07

Not at all. Dad is a twat.

MrsLettuce · 13/09/2012 19:08

YWNBU, obviously.

I'd have taken him if he was mine and would expect anyone caring for my DC to be more cautious tan I might be myself.

pjmama · 13/09/2012 19:08

No harm done. Better than not taking him when he needs it. He was in your care, you made a judgement call. Perfectly fine IMO.

Original poster
Dordeydoo · 13/09/2012 19:08

I said to the dad he's got antibiotics so clearly needed to go

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Sirzy · 13/09/2012 19:08

I would have been angry if you hadn't got him checked if you were worried about his breathing.

Mama1980 · 13/09/2012 19:10

Not at all. I would be pleased you were so diligent always better to be safe.......

mamij · 13/09/2012 19:11

I would have been grateful you spotted it and did something about it!

devonshiredumpling · 13/09/2012 19:12

if it was my little one i would have bought you a big bunch of flowers for getting it sorted (ignore the dad hes a twat)

Fresh01 · 13/09/2012 19:12

No, I took my DC4 same age and symptoms to emergency appointment at doc this avo. She is on medication now too. Knowing how miserable she has been today you did the right thing.

boredandrestless · 13/09/2012 19:14

You did the right thing.

He maybe felt guilty and defensive that one of them couldn't take him? Don't let his comment bother you.

SlightlySuperiorPeasant · 13/09/2012 19:20

You were right to go. When DS was 11mo I got a phone all from his nursery to say he needed to be picked up as he was breathing hard, so Si got him and booked an emergency GP appointment. By the time I got him to the GP he was barely conscious :( Poor baby had pneumonia - straight to hospital, where he was given antibiotics and was racing around 2 hours later. I still can't believe how quickly he went downhill (and how quickly he recovered!)

griphook · 13/09/2012 19:23

You were defiantly going the right thing, the Dad would only have cause to complain if you hadn't bothered

SauvignonBlanche · 13/09/2012 19:27

The Dad needs to complain to the GP then for giving his DS unnecessary medication Hmm

MyLastDuchess · 13/09/2012 19:30

YANBU. Anyway, it's always better to err on the side of caution, especially with babies.

Original poster
Dordeydoo · 13/09/2012 20:01

Dad has now text and told me he realises baby did need to go and he's sorry for undermining my decision.

I guess he got a grilling from his DW Grin

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boredandrestless · 13/09/2012 20:54

I was wondering what the wife thought of his comment! Not many mothers out there that wouldn't back your decision to take their 8 month old chesty baby to the doctors is there! Grin

ToothbrushThief · 13/09/2012 20:56

He's reading MN Wink

CoolaSchmoola · 13/09/2012 20:57

I don't get why a parent would accuse a caregiver of being over cautious??

Surely that's infinitely preferable to being lacksadaisical??

You can bet your ass if you hadn't taken the baby to the Dr he'd have had something to say then too. He's an idiot.

I think I'd be inclined to say to him that when it comes to a child's health you would much rather err on the side of caution and be wrong, than to leave something and later find out you should have gone because the child is very sick.

JumpingThroughMoreHoops · 13/09/2012 20:57

Are you allowed to take a minor for non urgent medical treatment?

MadameDefarge · 13/09/2012 20:57

looking after my niece one day in plaground she had a tumble from climbing frame. she looked fine and if she had been mine i would just have kept an eye on her. as it was i took her to a and e to get her checked out. mum met us there. she was fine but i wasnt prepared to take even the tiniest chance with someone elses dc. oh, she wa 20 months and fell very near a firemans pole thing...not a strapping six year old having a bump!

Iggly · 13/09/2012 20:58

What a tool of a dad.

YANBU

OhDearNigel · 13/09/2012 20:59

I subscribe to the theory that you cannot be too cautious with someone else's child

Zipitydooda · 13/09/2012 21:00

At least he's apologised. He's probably feeling sheepish now.

JumpingThroughMoreHoops · 13/09/2012 21:01

badly written post of mine - a none parent/guardian can take a minor to the doctors and obtain prescription medication for non emergency complaints?