To be really upset about what this woman at work said?

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Feeling a bit tearful and emotional today, so am not sure if it's the clomid that's making me feel more sensitive than usual.

I had to tell my boss that I needed tomorrow afternoon off to have a follicle tracking scan and this woman overheard and said to me in the corridor "I see you are ttc, how long have you been trying"

I told her over 3 years and that I was now taking stims, etc and tried to make some upbeat comment about hopefully this is going to be my month.

She responded "You'll probably get pregnant and then wish you hadn't done it!"

I just didn't know what to say. I know it's not easy to say the right thing in this situation but surely no one in their right mind would say that to a woman who has obviously struggled with ttc for a long time?

I don't know. AIBU?

She was thoughtless, and a bit thick really, but I doubt she said it to be deliberately rude. Let it go over your head, people are idiots when you're ttc, pregnant and a parent
Good luck, I hope you get your positive this month!

yanbu. she's being insensitive!

What a strange and insensitive thing to say to you, she shouldn't have been Listening in to the conversation in the first place.

That was out of order. Is she normally so rude and horrid? Please don't waste anymore of your time on what she said.

Good Luck with the rest of your treatment. I am going to keep my fingers crossed for you. Sending positive thoughts your way.

You're not U to feel upset (especially on Clomid - I speak from experience!) She opened her mouth before engaging her brain - it's no more or less than that. People do say the stupidest things about TTC or fertility difficulties or fertility treatment or pregnancy in general. If you can, smile and ignore. It counts for nowt: the only thing that matters is that the Clomid works. I hope you soon have a BFP!

Hope you get your positive this month x

I don't know what she meant to be honest. Why would I wish I hadn't taken the clomid if I need it to get pg? And why would I wish I wasn't pg when I've just told her that I've spent years trying to get pg?

I guess it's just another of those silly comments people make when you are ttc.

So she overheard? She had no business to comment on something she heard by accxident. Couldn't she have realised that it was a private matter? How insensitive of her.

If I had been you and had my wits about me I would have told her to MHOB.

Its an awkward topic for a lot of people, trying so hard not to say something insensitive and then inadvertently doing so. I doubt that she was deliberately being rude.

Has she got children? She's probably just had the morning/week/year from hell with themand didn't think. Hope you get your BFP this month :)

people dont think :( i lost 2 babies, had a baby and then was ttc for 5 years with no pregnancies, no reason for itthen had 3 basbies in 3 years.. on my last pregnancy i was told by my mum not to get attached because i would probably lose it anyway ,, the baby is 7 months now

She's got 4 grown up/teenage dc I think.

Thank you for all the positive wishes everyone. x

If it was an awkward topic then why did she say anything at all? TBH I think her listening in then approaching you after was rude. Good luck OP.

I suspect it was just a flippant comment about how much trouble pregnancy/babies can be, no doubt made by someone who got pregnant accidentally or very easily and has no idea how painful long term ttc can be. Just brush it off (easier said than done when pumped full of fertility drugs, I know).

YANBU, but don't give it head space. People say stupid, thoughtless things because they are too rubbish with emotions to deal with the real issue - she may have felt sad/sympathetic that you've been ttc for a while, didn't know what to say, said something stupid trying to be 'humourous' and is right now cringing.

All the best of luck to you with ttc x

mama that must have been so difficult for you - and definitely an insensitive thing for your mum to say although she probably meant well.

It sounds like she was trying to make a lighthearted comment to dispel the gravity of learning you had been trying to conceive for three years, but chose something insensitive to say in her panic.

I agree with mellen basically.

She sounds vair vair thoughtless. Lets hope she walked off and had a lightbulb moment and is now cringing and starting a thread which says something like 'Oh god, I can't believe what I just said to this poor lady at work, pls tell me I can be forgiven!'

When I was about to give birth to my first someone said to me 'you'll be sorry it was ever born soon - much better off where it is if you ask me' I just said nothing and walked off as there really wasn't much I could say to that!

Ho Hum. Thank goodness it was only a random colleague and not a close friend.

What an odd thing to say, I don't even understand what she meant .

I think it was a bit rude of her to comment on a personal matter she'd overheard you discussing with someone else.

I think the lady was just being insensitive tbh, it's like the comments you get of "it's harder the older they get" when you're struggling to function on a few hours sleep with a crying newborn - rubbish, it gets easier the older they get (well so far IME anyway)!

Take no notice and just remember you don't have to tell people anything you don't want to.

Wishing you luck on TTC and all the best!

What a horrible insensitive thing to say. She clearly is a rude lady if she listens in to conversations.

I've had a few people say similar things, it's upsetting. I tend to give them a wide berth after the first comment.

I hope this month is successful for you.