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AIBU?

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Original poster

aibu to be annoyed at this

35 replies

wonderingwendy · 12/09/2012 16:46

my dh brought me home some £1.99 reduced flowers ,nothing says i love you than reduced half dead flowers does it .
i was so upset he can spend nearly £4 a day on fags for himself and all i mean to him is flowers on their way out !!
him giving me flowers is a very rare occassion btw

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BettySwollocksandaCrustyRack · 12/09/2012 16:48

Oh dear and yes, of course YABU!

Isnt it the thought that counts??

TinyDancingHoofer · 12/09/2012 16:48

better than nothing... afterall it's the thought that counts.
but i get where you're coming from it's a bit Sad getting cheap dead flowers.

WinklyFriedChicken · 12/09/2012 16:48

I last got flowers in 2007

YABU to be upset about your present not costing enough

YANBU to be upset at getting crap half dead flowers

BettySwollocksandaCrustyRack · 12/09/2012 16:48

..although granted, he could have picked some that looked a bit lively I suppose.

WorraLiberty · 12/09/2012 16:48

I have absolutely no problem with this sort of thing.

A little impromtu gift like that is lovely imo, no matter how much he did or didn't spend.

It's the thought that counts...though from reading other threads about 'garage flowers', I think I might be in a minority.

But if I bought my DH a silly little gift 'just because' and he turned his nose up at it for that reason, I wouldn't bloody bother again.

fluffyraggies · 12/09/2012 16:51

OP do you think he picked them up instead of the full price ones? Or did he just grab some flowers with a paper ect ...

If my DH had gone out 'specially to buy flowers for a birthday or anniversary or somesuch the £1.99s would bother me much more than if they were a sudden impulse at the petrol station. SWIM?

What was the situation?

Minty82 · 12/09/2012 16:52

Haha, oh dear...DH has brought me flowers precisely once in six years, on Valentine's Day because a friend asked him what he was getting me so he felt he should. They were from the supermarket and had the price tag on.

Oh, and that's six years together, only three married, so they include the years when he was supposedly trying...

cantspel · 12/09/2012 16:53

poor bloke damed no matter what he does.

Next time he should save the £1.99 and not bother.

Minty82 · 12/09/2012 16:54

Oh, so in answer to AIBU - yes; I'd probably be thrilled!

WoodwormScrubs · 12/09/2012 16:57

Depends on why he bought them.

I'd never in a million years pay the price shops ask for cut flowers, but if I saw some very reduced in price I might buy them to make the house look like actual grown ups live in it.

Perhaps they were bought as a random bargain, rather than as a 'this is what I think of you' type of thing.

StaceymReadyForNumber3 · 12/09/2012 16:57

Sorry op YABU.

I bought my own flowers today, DH has bought me flowers once sine we've been together and that was because he was feeling guilty being on a lads holiday when I was having an operation

1.99 or £19 it is the thought that counts!

KenLeeeeeee · 12/09/2012 16:58

YABU to complain that he didn't spend enough on you.

fluffyraggies · 12/09/2012 16:58

My oldest friend buys her own flowers on her wedding anniversary. Been married to her husband for 10 years now and he's never bothered :(

I never realised she did this till i happened to be with her one day when she bought them. Always thought the flowers in her house round this time were from him. It was always a bloody big bunch for about £50 mind you, 'to make up for it' Grin

Original poster
wonderingwendy · 12/09/2012 16:58

he works at waitrose and brought them home from work ,no special occassion.

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zippey · 12/09/2012 17:00

Be grateful you got some flowers? He should have taken the price and labels off though. If he smokes, I guess he will have to buy fags.

Think cup half full, not empty!

LostItYearsAgo · 12/09/2012 17:00

My DH never brings me flowers. Not even £1.99 half dead ones. You should think yourself lucky lady Wink

fluffyraggies · 12/09/2012 17:02

Ah! Well - YANBU to some extent. It is the thought that counts though.

I'd make a point of being chuffed he bought them. Then you might get flowers more often?

LRDtheFeministDragon · 12/09/2012 17:05

I wouldn't thank anyone for half-dead flowers, though I do sometimes buy reduced ones that look ok then kick myself when they wilt five minutes later. If he doesn't buy them often he clearly needs more practice so he'll get it right next time!

I think if he got them at work, he probably didn't think of it as a grand romantic gesture but more 'ah, why not'.

hairybeast · 12/09/2012 17:07

I've always told DH that if for any reason he decides to buy me flowers (probably never going to happen Grin ) that I'd rather he bought me a cheap bunch from a supermarket than spend a fortune on something that'll die in a week........

WelshMaenad · 12/09/2012 17:28

DH and I LOVE scoring reduced flower bargains. I'm generally more chuffed with him bringing home a £15 bouquet reduced to £1.50 than a £10 one at full price. I find if you trim off the leaves and remove the odd dying flowerhead, they look fab and still last up to a week.

I think our best score were bunches of £8 peonies reduced to 10p. He got me three, I had a massive vaseful, they were stunning.

I'm a bit weird though!

caramelsmadfuzzytail · 12/09/2012 17:35

i can do better than that, my ex bought me a bunch of flowers for 45p and gave them to me 2 days later.

I was highly miffed and told him so. The next bunch was roses and i dried them out as proof that he could do better, i've still got them

NermalAndGarfield · 12/09/2012 17:43

YABU, you should think yourself lucky! I got some lovely flowers today, from my SIL because her brother, my DH, is being a bit of an idiot at the moment, and she feels bad about it! I was very very grateful for my flowers they were definitely not £1.99.

Original poster
wonderingwendy · 12/09/2012 17:44

i guess im just ungrateful then - just would of been nice after 15 long difficult years with him thats all

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Donkeysdontridebicycles · 12/09/2012 17:50

If these flowers were given to you by a child for Mothering Sunday or on your birthday, of course you wouldn't mind.

From a grown man, who got them from his place of work so not like he overexerted himself, YANBU.

WorraLiberty · 12/09/2012 17:52

Why does he have to 'overexert' himself just to thoughtfully bring some flowers home form work?