to think that toddlers are inherently kind of over emotional and not prone to any kind of logic? (except the special toddler kind that explains why they *must* have biscuits for breakfast)

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i keep hearing DH saying to almost 3 year old DS1 "why are you being so silly DS1?" when he bursts into tears over something which appears not to matter much.

e.g. "not that cup daddy, i need one with animals on!"

i really just want to say it's because he's a toddler. personally my head would explode if i tried to work out why x toy must accompany him to bed/the toilet/breakfast and why one day he loves y food and the next it's yuk.

AIBU?

I might show him this thread. as long as you don't all say I'm BU.

oh i love those.

do you want to get up?
no.
ok so you're going to stay in bed?
just going to do nothing.
ok. lets do nothing.
i don't want to do that!

Oh so that's where I've been going wrong! I've wasted spent many hrs trying to blatantly yell reason with my dd (3.9). Now I know to shut up and give in not to bother.

should i just look out the cutted up pear thread too?

loving these

OP, of course YANBU

DP is the same but since he's on a career break and around DS a lot more, he started learning. Hopefully your DH will learn too.

I have s classic toddler.
She wakes up screaming for attention in the morning. 'bwekfast prees mummy' 'fairwy cup, fairwy cup' over ans over.
Asks her what she wants. 'nooooo mummy, don't want milkys, want juicee' screams, cries.
'fawnflakes prees mummy' 'noooo, I want pops'
T'is fun in my house
But, yes it is hard to explain the, 'it has to be this way' to my dh too. He always gets it wrong, and then it's ' I want mummeeee!!!'

i think part of the problem is that DS1 was fairly angelic until a couple of months before DS2 was born. DH has been at home with him since i went back to work when he was a baby.

this non compliance with anything is a bit of a shock to the system, i guess.

thanks all

You are completely reasonable.

It is very hard being a toddler sometimes. These things that are ridiculously petty issues to us are very big indeed if one is three foot high! the only reason colour of cup, etc is a small issue to us adults is because our whole lives are so big. We don't quibble over beakers any more- we quibble over what colour the walls should be!

"you are not the bossy of me. I am the bossy...or mummy" That was DH firmly told when he tried to reason with DD (2).

My favourite from my nephew was his excuse for nit going to bed and constantly turning his big light on:

"I need to see if teddy has thumbs". :)

DD (3.5) is very particular about things, especially first thing on a morning. The day usally starts with "I want a big oval weetabik in my peppa pig bowl with milk and a white spoon" God help us if any one of those things is wrong. DH made the mistake of buying a cheaper brand of Weetabix and they were RECTANGLES! Needless to say we won't be getting those again

My favourite is when she's crying over something very trivial eg the wrong beaker and she gets all upset and then when you ask her what's wrong, she replies "I don't know. I'm not having much luck!". Not sure where's she's got that from

Just got the toddler back after he has been at his dads.

He had a crying session over a slug.

He saw 2 slugs in the garden and called them "mum sug and daddy sug"

There's wasn't another so he cried as he wanted a "me sug, me sug" proper sobs.

So I took him in then went back out and showed him a "me sug" it was one of the 2 he saw but was happy with that

I gave up any attempt at reason when DS was 23 months. He'd been having a tantrum about something, I got exasperated and said "DS, you are not making any sense!". He squared up to me, pouted, put his hands on his hips and said "NO, Mummy. I DON'T make sense" and flounced off.

From that day forward, that was me told!

I thought of this thread tonight when my OH was getting DS (just turned 2) ready for bed. It's getting colder at night here so we figured it was a good idea to put DS in pyjamas instead of him just sleeping in a nappy like he has been doing lately.

OH (Holding up pyjamas): DS, do you want to put these on?

I mean really, what did he think the answer was going to be? And what did he think would happen after that?