so bloody pissed off!!

[msnaughty]

my kids were of school for 7 weeks. they had extra week of due to building works. i have 4 kids. i don't get a break at all. i dont have parents or anyone like that to gve me a break. getting towards the end of the 7 weeks the kids are getting bored and im just about ripping my haor out. so i have had a bit of a moan now and then.

This morning i said to friend what can i get ds for his 10th birthday. she said your getting him a play station. so get him clothes he is older now he dont need toys. i said but he like's toys she then said no wonder your kid's play up their spoilt. i just said how much do you spend on your dd's birthday and she says about 70.00 i said thats probably about what i would spend, but i will buy 2nd hand and i dont spend 30.00 on a game. and her kids have all the name brand stuff. think to get a 3 year old a ds and a 30.00 game is over the top. not saying im right just what i think. and i think she has a cheek to call my kids spoilt!!! not saying she should not have brand name things good luck to her. but dont call my kids spoilt!!!!!

I think you are having a stressy time op. 7 weeks off with 4 children is HARD WORK. I only have 2 and find it tough going during holidays. Hope your children go back soon.
As for your friend's comment- yes- it is a bit off I think.
So- YANBU to be irritated.

Your friend sounds like bit of a bitch to be honest and I doubt very much that her own child never plays up. All kids do, at some point. It has nothing to do with what you buy or don't buy.

I think people should steer clear of criticising their friends kids - it never goes well. Ignore her, or better still, spend less time with someone who thinks it's okay to be rude about your dc

tweasels; yes your right it is the same friend. thats why its hard she really did help me out alot. and she can be the best friend you could ever ask for. but then there is another side to. and i have never really stood up to her to be honest.. but when i help people im a mug for doing it. when i buy my kids things or treat them they are spoilt. and she likes to try and tell me how to parent and her ways are not right for me.

i have not been moaning about the kids for 7 weeks lol, just past couple of days.

The trouble is if you moan about something to someone, you leave yourself open to advice, whether you want it or not.

well stop being her friend or stop listening to her waffle - I wouldn;t let it make me 'bloody pissed off !!'

Maybe she hit a nerve...

no imnot: just pisses me of how someone can say that when there is so many floors in what she says. actually as i have typed that i just sat and thought about it and really it does not matter as long as i feel im doing the right thing for my kids and i parent how i think is right.

way to go msnaughty.

ignore her.

buy what you want, it's your child. Unless she's paying?

extended holidays is enough to test any parent/child.

What did you reply?

I'm probably wrong, but just a thought..........
I know a few people who have friends like yours. They are always very helpful. At your house a lot, offering to do things for you etc.. This often then makes them think they have the right to offer "constructive critiscm" about how you bring your children up and other lifestyle choices you make.

It is controlling behaviour and it's not normal. By making you quite dependant on them, it means you can't leave the friendship and you have to put up with their shit.

However. That is a huge assumption based on very little information.

Familiarity does sometimes breed contempt give a red light to some to totally interfere/offer unwanted advice you also said that she's helped you out and probably now thinks it's ok to make all manner of comments.

Just distance yourself a bit from friend and don't tell her too much anymore.

cheese...just asked her what she spends on her child. she said about 70.00 i said mine is about the same only i buy some 2nd hand. and i dont have others to buy for my children as she does.

tweasels... yes you word it so much better than me. i dont ask my friend to help she just decided to and she takes over a bit to. its really silly and petty but we were stripping wall paper in my box room. she had a big scrapper and i have a small one and she kept saying can you get this can you get that. so i was never left just to get on with it. and then she has to cheek to say oh i have done 2 walls all you have done is that bit. or when i carpeted my stairs i done it all and she done the last 2 steps. then when her mum came to my house she says look mum i done all her stairs and everything for her!!

i can do al them things on my own but of course its nice to have help as well i just dont like what comes with it. like you say the so called constructive critisim, just wish i could confrount people more. but its just not me

chipped: now all the kids are at school and as they have to now e in bed earlyer and the winter is setting in. i think it migth become a bit distant anyway. .

but i have noticed a pattern when she is stressed about things. she comes to my house and cleans decorates fixes things. im moving out in feb. and we have just done my house from top to bottom. and do things that done need doing. she sort of finds things to do.

It sounds like she sees you as a 'project'

No but, yeah but, no but, yeah but, no but, yeah but, no but, yeah but, no but........

msnaughty feel free to chuck her in my direction I can smile and nod all day long if someone decorating, cleaning for me

lol