To expect a call on my birthday?

[Abitlikechicken]

It's my mum's birthday today. She lives about 150 miles north from me so I won't see her. I'm going to work but I'll find time this morning to ring her and wish her well. Wouldn't feel right if I didn't.

However, she isn't a big phone user and never rings me on mine, it's always just a text. AIBU to be disappointed by this? I do tell her sometimes how nice it is to get that call but she never gets the hint! She's great in ever other way, I probably am BU I know but it seems such an easy thing to do?

YANBU in the slightest.

And I am the first person to be a bit hmm at people that complain about not getting fussed over enough/ not getting good enough presents etc on their birthday.

A phone call from the woman that gave birth to you - not too much to ask at all.

I think as long as she acknowledges your birthday then it doesn't matter too much how she does it tbh. If you want to chat to her you could always phone her

My mum always sends a card which is lovely. I don't really expect a call - my mum sometimes phones but usually expects me to be busy and waits for me to call her.

So long as you get some acknowledgement I'd not be too fussed.

My mum used to regularly forget to wish me happy birthday. I always phoned her every morning to say Hi and check she was OK, but she often wouldn't realise until later in the day that it was my birthday.

To make matters worse, my birthday is on Boxing Day. How can you not remember that you spent Christmas in hospital giving birth? Beats me.

Not sure if you're BU, OP - your mum texts you so you do get your special day ackowledged, just not in the way you'd like. Have you talked to her about it? Hints don't always get through.

It's an odd thing, birthday threads.

The majority seem to think its okay to be a bit grabby about presents and fuss from other halves, but it's unreasonable to want a phone call from the mother.

Sometimes it's good to be in the minority.

If making a special day of your birthday is your thing, then I don't think it's in the least U of you to want your mum to make the effort to phone you. Does your DH get on well with her? If she's not taking your hints/requests, could he phone her the day before to remind her to phone, not text, you.

This has just reminded me a story a friend tells about her mum on her (friend's) birthday. One year she'd gone out to lunch a bit early to celebrate her birthday; her mum had phoned her just after she'd left the office, one of the friend's colleagues answered her phone and when friend's mum said "hello, it's Mrs X, is my daughter there please?" the colleague replied "no, sorry, she's just gone out to lunch - it's her birthday". Friend's mum retorted, rather tartly, "yes, I know ... I was there".

of a story ...

(sun is shining on my screen, I can't see it properly)

I usually get a call from my mum and my sisters, but on my DHs side of the family they expect the person whose birthday it is to call them, to thank for present/card. Which I think is a bit odd.