to be pissed off about friend sharing my pregnancy news?

[attheendoftheday]

Not sure if IABU, but suspect I might be being a bit petty over a small issue.

I am currently pregnant with dc2. I had a couple of early bleeds, so was hesitant about telling friends and family too early about the pregnancy in case the worst happened (we told our mums but not others). Luckily everything seems OK and we've started telling people as and when we see them.

I have an old friend from uni with whom i'm close, he was one of the first people we told. His partner, it turns out, is also pregnant and due at nearly the same time as us - brilliant news. However, I've just found out that he has rung up most of our mutual friends to tell them about their pregnancy, and has at the same time told them all about my pregnancy too. We are having a get together of our friends from uni next weekend and I was looking forward to telling people myself, and I feel really upset that he's done this.

So, AIBU to be upset about this? Is it just my pregnancy hormones? I asked him about it and he said he thought it was 'public knowledge', clearly didn't think it was a big deal. I ended up saying "but it was my news" in a petulant tone like I was all of five years old. Am I the only person who'd be upset by this? Neither my friend or my dp can see why I am.

*as and when I see them.

I hated telling people, just couldn't cope with the congratulations they made me cry. I'd beg people to pass the news on.

I'm afraid you have to say if you don't want news passed on. I actually spread my news by finding the biggest gossips I knew ad telling them. Them I assumed the news would just get round.

YABU unless you told him to keep it quiet. If you don't say something isn't for public consumption people will pass it on.

In addition, whilst I don't know your group of mutual friends, I know that one of my friends pregnancy announcement at a lovely larget get together seriously derailed the event as one of the couples present had been having serious 'non conceivement' angst and the sight of several families, one prominent bump and an announcement of another was just too much for both of them.

Poor X (the wife) fled to the kitchen to sob into the potato salad. And Y the husband got totally plastered. After that debacle I always think a bit of prewarning is nice you don't have to out and out tell people but make it fairly obvious you have news or drop a big hint eg. make sure there is plenty of non alcoholic stuff to drink (or similar....) or we won't be going skiing this year.

YANBU to feel hurt as you so wanted to share your good news yourself. But now it's 'out there' I'm sure everyone is still just as delighted for you. I found out about a friend's pregnancy from her via text when she was over halfway there. She said "sorry I left it so long, I thought X [another friend] would have already told you by now!" Friend X was evidently more excellent at keeping secrets than she expected. With some people you have to be really specific.

As your friend's DP is also pregnant and due the same time, he was probably over excited at the joy of the coincidence. Now it's been done, hopefully you can let it go and enjoy the rest of your pregnancy.