My friend has been diagnosed with aspergers about 4 months ago. She is 22 and at university, she lives in halls at term time.
I noticed odd things she was telling me recently about her mother's reaction. Her mum kept saying things like "Oh there is nothing wrong with you it's all an act".
Her mum is in denial I think, my friend has suffered all her life with feeling different to other kids at school and despite teachers recommending that her mother take her to be checked out her mother never has. She was only diagnosed recently because she went behind her mother's back and through the uni to do it.
My friend finds it hard in social situations and is highly dependent on her parents as they would not let her get a student loan and fund her university education themselves (they are loaded). She also passed her driving test and they bought her a car. Whenever she does things that they don't want to do they threaten to take the money and car from her.
She has also got her first boyfriend who is also asd and her mother hates him because...well in her words "he's autistic and you can do better".
Today she was talking to me about how life is hard with her parents and I told her that when she gets her degree she will get a job and move out and things will be easier. She kept arguing and saying it was impossible. I knew something was up and delved a bit further and she finally told me that her mother regularly hits her when she displays "asperger behaviour" (in her words).
I really dont know what to do as she is a vulnerable person and I am the only one she has told and I really need advice. Should I call social services or keep my nose out? Would bringing it all up be detrimental to her? I really feel like going round to her house and having strong words with her mum 