Is STBXH BU in regards to upcoming mutual friend's wedding?

[ThisIsMyClone]

STBXH & I have been separated for about 6 months. We have been sent an invitation to a mutual friend's wedding and he has asked me not to go as it will be 'awkward'

We have an amicable split and still get along as friends. But he doesn't want me there as we will most likely be drinking (for a couple of months after the split we still shagged a bit if we got drunk). He doesn't want there to be any issues that could arise if he (and I) got drunk and said something.

He has a new girlfriend but assures me that even if we did have separate invites he wouldn't be bringing her. And that if I wasn't to go he still wouldn't

I think that there would be no awkwardness. I am simply there to celebrate the marriage between two friends. I told him that he was the one making it 'awkward' and it doesn't have to be. I'll be with the girls all night and he can be hanging with the boys, so to speak. We don't need to even be talking to each other.

He ended the conversation with, 'Well if you do end up going, do not talk to me at all the whole day'. Well duh, that is what I had just said!

This will be my first ever wedding as due to distances I haven't been able to make previous friends' weddings, even my own sister's.

WIBU to say 'sod him, I'm going and he can just lump it?'

I think he is hoping on taking the new G/F

If you were over him this wouldn't be so much of an issue. Sounds like two people power playing to me.

Go if you genuinely want to celebrate your friends marriage but be sure you are clear on your motives, else it's just petty.

As for the smoking hot and string down GF - what has she done to deserve that!?! Look nice for your own self esteem, not some inconsequential stranger who has no bearing on your life.

*staring

GF isn't going DoMeDon. But I wouldn't stare her down even is she was there. Not my style.

I didn't know it even was an issue until today I am the one telling him it isn't an issue at all, and can't understand why it would be awkward. But he just doesn't seem to think the same for some reason.

I'm certainly not power playing.

Fwiw, my x seems to feel that it is beneath him to be seen in public with someone he is no longer with - I believe it has something to do with male pride... Deep breath and ignore

Just fucking go and leave him to it! Nip over to S&B to get the laydeez to style the bum off you and quaff lots of champers while laughing in an attractive manner.

But surely you have the right to think it won't be awkward but he has the right to think it will.
I would speak to the bride and ask to be seated separately. I think the status of your relationship is clear, or at least he doesn't feel it is. He was wanting to make it clear.
Go and just keep away from him. Everyone is happy then.

Sorry This the staring down part of post was directed at the posters advocating it, not you but apols as not clear from my post.

I know you weren't aware it was an issue but the texting him about it seems like there is still some things going on. I see where you're coming from though, obviously his issue.