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to think dd should go on brownie weekend

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3duracellbunnies · 11/09/2012 09:43

It is at the end of half term, from the friday pm to sunday lunchtime. I am working the sat am before, and otherwise all the family are off and dh has the week off work. He says that he wants us to 'do something as a family'. My argument is that as much as it might be lovely to go away, we spent loads of money camping at June half term, and 3 weeks camping in France over the summer, plus my car needs to be repaired soon. We don't have the money for more holidays. We are lucky that he is able to take a week off then, but in the absence of firm plans we will probably do a few day trips, visit grandparents etc, all of which can be arranged around the brownie holiday. It will also be nice to have a bit of 1to1 time with our other two children. Dd was excited that she might be going, but she is fairly compliant (at the moment) and probably won't make a big fuss if he says no.

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Mrsjay · 11/09/2012 09:47

Let her go to Camp has she been before DD is a guide now she loves camps. It is nice to do familiy stuff and you have certainly had a lot of family time over the summer, but it will be nice for her to go on an adventure with her friends , and you and your husband could do something together ,

Mrsjay · 11/09/2012 09:47

Oh sorry you have other children too , you could still do something with them you don't need to go on holiday do you , YANBU

purplehouse · 11/09/2012 09:49

I'd definitely let her go on Brownie camp. She'll love it and still have plenty of time to spend as a family. Can't understand your DH's pov at all.

HairyPotter · 11/09/2012 09:51

I would let her go. DD2 had a ball at her camp in May. It was her first time away and loved every minute. We also had a chance to spend tine with dd1 on her own. We had a lovely day out then took her to see Dara O'Briain as dd2 was too young to see him anyway. Win win situation

She also got camping badges as well as pack holiday ones for her sash, which pleased her no end Grin

3duracellbunnies · 11/09/2012 09:55

Thanks MrsJay she went for a day before she started brownies as a rainbow to visit the brownie camp (and dd2 might be invited to visit this time). She did do a sleepover last term in the church hall, but this will be her first proper weekend away without us. She is 7.5 and certainly mature enough to stay up late having pillow fights enjoy it. I don't think it is her going away that bothers dh, more being tied down to being around that weekend.

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Mrsjay · 11/09/2012 09:57

ah he is reacting to her not being at home but you could do something you dont need to sit waiting at home you have mobiles . I think he is secretly worried about her not being with you both, she will be fine maybe a bit smelly when she gets home

3duracellbunnies · 11/09/2012 09:57

Yes, not only will she get a badge for going, but also they are going to work on a cooking badge while they are there. Quite fancy voluunteering but dh would be even more grumpy then

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TubbyDuffs · 11/09/2012 09:59

My soon to be 8 year old is just about to start with the Cubs and the only thing he has gone on about is the camp out! I would definitely let her go.

halcyondays · 11/09/2012 10:04

Of course she should go if she wants to.

Kayano · 11/09/2012 10:05

Send her to camp and go out for a nice meal just the two of you

Kayano · 11/09/2012 10:07

As a side note: I was a
Rainbow, brownie and a guide

But I was absolutely pathetic. I refused to go to camp lol
I think I was 14 and they made me go. I called my mum after one night and went home. The place we were camping was only 2.5 miles
From my house!

They should have had a pathetic badge to award me lol

blackteaplease · 11/09/2012 10:17

Your DH is BU, you have the Saturday pm and then Sunday-Thursday to do family stuff together, whatever that may be.

I think your dd should go to Brownie camp, I remember my first camp at that age, it was great.

3duracellbunnies · 11/09/2012 10:18

My brownies didn't do any camps so I guess I am a bit biased, dh always maintains that he did more exciting things with his parents than on scout camps, and yes we do lots of adventurous things with the dc, but we can't take her on a weekend without parents which must be so fun at that age. Also she has been really brave, she is the only one from her school in the pack, although she knew some from Rainbows, and I think it willl be fun doing something with her new friends.

Will try and discuss with dh his grumpiness reasons tonight and talk him round!

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MissMogwi · 11/09/2012 10:22

My PLB DD2 has just been on her first Brownie camp this weekend. She absolutely loved it, she didn't want to come home!

It's done her the world of good as she isn't a very confident little girl, she was full of all the things they had done and the 'midnight' feast.

I worried about her the whole time and couldn't sleep Blush but I'm so glad she went. I also spent lots of quality time with my elder DD, which we really enjoyed.

Your DD will get lots from it, it would be a shame if she misses out.

Mrsjay · 11/09/2012 10:23

tell him she wants to get her badges and would be a bit upset if she doesn't get them, he is going to have to let go sometimes, I think he is secretly worried about her not being at home It is weird when a member of the family isnt around but what about the next camp or in years to come a school holiday this will ease him in gently to whats to come as she gets older, go all phsyco babble on him Grin

blackteaplease · 11/09/2012 10:24

From memory at brownie camp we stayed in a big house, went swimmimg, played organised games, help with dinner prep, sang songs and had hot chocolate. You get loads of badges.

My DH used to be a cub leader and I have volunteered at camp a couple of years ago - we did bbq cookery session, a walk to the beach for a swim, climbing and abseiling and nature lessons.

It's not just the activities though, it's the excitement of being away.

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