to think that things are far more important than money.

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My Mother in Law passed away 5 weeks ago. It was sudden even though she did have some health issues, including a mental illness. Even though we've had issues over the years, she was a fantastic GrandMother to our 2 Children.
My Husband has a younger Sister, and it was left down to us to sort things out for the funeral. She did have some input, but usually to tell us to do it as cheaply as possible. There is an elderly Uncle, who my Mother in Law lived with, due to her losing her house due to her refusing to be her Council tax. We couldn't have at the time. We were unable to help, because of her illness it was impossible to reason with her.
She's had a great few years though, going off on holidays, and basically living life to the full. Good on her.
We went on holiday the day after the funeral. Fortunately everything went through without a hitch.
We came back off our holiday, to a letter from his Sister, demanding to know what his happening to the estate. My Husband is doing his best, but he's still grieving, and doing what he can, when he can. We also have 2 Children, one who is Autistic, so he can't just drop everything.
Yesterday, she phoned me to find out what he's playing at, and why it's taking so long.
I'm fuming, that she's involved me. I am losing respect for her as it day goes by.
Am i being unreasonable to think it is too soon to be stressing over money. As i said earlier, it has only been 5 weeks.
I apologise if my post doesn't make much sense, as i'm on my phone. xxx

I wouldn't hold anything she says or does against her for the next couple of months if you can at all help it, she has lost her mum as well and has maybe fixated on something she can 'control' in an attempt to deal with it.

Don't be pushed either, just deal with it as and when you can and tell her you are both doing the best you can and to stop pushing.

Deaths and estates can bring out both the best and the worst in people. Often the same people and at the same time in my experience. Sometimes, also, people can focus on 'things' rather than dealing with emotions - which may be what your SIL is doing.

Of course it's too soon to stress over money and it doesn't sound from what you say as if your MIL would have had a whole lot to leave either if she was living with a brother. Winding up estates can take many, many months even if they're uncomplicated.

Try to stay calm though. It's likely not about the estate at all but about your SIL dealing with the loss of her mother in this back handed sort of way.

that makes a lot of sense about her fixating on it. I will definately bear that in mind. I just want to be left out of it, it's really nothing to do with me. xxx