am i being a mug?

[msnaughty]

my mate seems to think im being a mug. my dd has a boyfriend they are both 15. i have spoken on here about them before dd's boyfriend is not staying at home at the moment and is at a friends house due to home problems. he is here alot wich i dont mind. if he is here when i cook meals i do some for him to. but friend says im being taken for a mug. but for last day or so he has said he does not want anything and has been up and down the fried chicken shop so many times. i have told my daughter to suggest to him to do a little mini food shop and he can leave a few bits here and can cook it when he wants to rather than keep going to the take away. friend then says im being a mug for letting him use my kitchen.

morloth: i dont think she would feel pressured. he is not actually staying here. so it's not like he has no where to go. at the moment. (if) he was staying here i would chat to dd about it first see how she felt about it. and also talk about if she wanted to bbreak up with him that its ok to and i would do my best to help him find somewhere safe to stay. but thats not the case anyway so its ok for now.

mamma, she is like it all the time always has been. she trys to tell me how to parent, compares my children and hers. always going on about my daughters friends are no good and im not strict enough with me kids ect ect. i have seen so much that contradicts what she says/does but i cant be arsed to say anything

You are not a mug. My mum did this for most of the waifs and strays in the neighbourhood. None of them thought she was a mug. They recognised it as the genuine act of kindness it was. And I learnt to do the same if people needed help. So not only are you not a mug, you are teaching your DD by example.