not to help with the nursery wood trip again?

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My DD2 recently started school nursery and every week they go on a trip to the woods. I never got to help when DD1 was at nursery due to having DD2 and no one to care for her at the time, so I was really keen to go along and see what it's all about.

The kids have a great time, it's a safe, enclosed area and they are generally left to explore and play, supervised of course. I just don't really feel DD2 got a lot out of it by me being there, she clung to me a lot rather than playing with the others and was generally quite whingy. I asked nursery staff if she was like this last week and no, she was great and had a ball.

So, AIBU to not go along again, or at least limit how much I go, I'm more than happy to help with walking them to and from nursery, and with other aspects they want parents involved with, just if my daughter isn't getting the most out of it by me being there, I'm quite reluctant to interfere with that part of her nursery experience.

TIA and apologies for the length!!

I would feel the same as you

I wouldn't I don't think but would let te nursery know I would be able to if they were desperate

Ah no, you aren't being U at all.

I came to the same conclusion when I helped out on dd's school trips, when she was quite a bit older than this. She was all clingy and it was spoiled for her - so I ducked out, too.

My DS was much the same, but even hated me helping the other children, I'd let them know why and see if there are other areas you could help with.

Thanks all, yeah will be telling them if they're desperate I'll help but think I will just leave DD2 to get mucky with her friends and properly enjoy it!

Not unreasonable at all. The staff will love you if you go to them to have a chat about it. They may well be thinking the same as you, and will want your dd to get the most out of the trip, but will worry about suggesting that you not go incase you are offended. Some parents would not take that suggestion from nursery staff well!

That said, it might be worth trying one more time to see if your dd will get over the novelty of having you there. She might well do, and it would be a shame for you to miss out on sharing it together if it ok'd be enjoyable.

Just go and have a chat with the staff and be open with them.