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To be annoyed that taxi ranks don't let families in first.

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LittleTurtle · 10/09/2012 11:39

More like a rant really, sorry if it was covered before.

When we came back from holiday with the Eurostar, we went to the taxi rank. I had DC3 on the sling on my front (4 months), a backpack on my back and the babybag on the side, while holding the hands of DC1 and 2 (aged 2 and 4). DH had 2 large suitcases, a backpack and bag. I told DH we will go to the front immediately because priority is given to families and seriously with all our baggage you could tell we were not taking the piss.

When we got there, there were the paralympic guides helping people get into the taxis, when she turned to us and asked : 'Oh sorry, who came first'. There were these Carrie Bradshaw-like fashionistas to go in front of us. I told the guide that we just came in, but usually families with babies usually go first. She told me she never heard of that, and that unless we were disabled or something..........
Then one of the fashionistas took a look at all our baggage and said it's fine we can go, at which her friend said : 'Oh no, are you sure?'. Eventually we were let in, but I could not help but say to my husband, one of the fashionistas look great on the outside, but just cold on the inside. What kind of inconsiderate society have we become?

In France, there are signs all over main taxi ranks, that you let the pregnant, disabled, families with babies and tots, etc. go in before. We even naturally get called to the front by the usher as we arrive.
I realised that people in london are less keen, one day we did that, and some guy rushed to the taxi to go in front of us, and the taxi driver turned him away and told him : 'don't you see those people need more help?'.

Even before I was pregnant and had kids, I always left the lift, seats etc. to the mums and elders, so all this behaviour surprises me.

OP posts:
IceBergJam · 10/09/2012 15:26

I think the OP is jealous of those women, and therefore puts them down by making fun of their groomed appearance, be

Sirzy · 10/09/2012 15:27

Pendeen - I agree, we were at a tourist attraction last week and a group of French where there who had no idea about the concept of waiting your turn, or not pushing a 2 year old out the way so you can see something

TantrumsAndGoldAndOrange · 10/09/2012 15:28

And marianne if you are struggling with your own chikdren so much that it's evident to strangers in a queue, then that's your own fault not whoever is in front of you waiting for a cab.

Get a grip FFS

LadyClariceCannockMonty · 10/09/2012 15:28

'Or a burning building/sinking boat - why should children go first, eh?'

That is a ridiculous thing to say and obviously not equivalent to a family waiting for a taxi home.

And anyone of any age could be tired, hungry or grumpy. Why are children any more important in that scenario?

God, who'd be a 'fashionista' or a 'hipster' if the OP or Marianne was around?

Oh, that's not a 'house opinion' either but my own.

IceBergJam · 10/09/2012 15:28

I think the OP is jealous of those women, and therefore puts them down by making fun of their groomed appearance, being nasty about childless working women, deducing they get pissed and befriend the boss to progress, and generally making herself more important through her children .

MarianneM · 10/09/2012 15:28

MarianneM but what if the other people waiting are tired, hungry or need the toilet.

But as grown-ups they can surely understand that children's needs are more urgent?

On a sinking/burning ship, human nature being what it is, I'd probably save myself, and someone else's kid would be the last thing on my mind. And in the taxi queue, you breeders wait your turn like everyone else.

You're a real credit to the human race.

Sirzy · 10/09/2012 15:30

Why are a child's needs more urgent? If the parent makes the choice to have them out late why should others have to wait longer as a result?

Jins · 10/09/2012 15:31

No MarianneM children's needs are not necessarily more urgent. You think they are because they are your children but LackingNameChangeInspiration's need sounds more important to me!

GoldPedanticPanda · 10/09/2012 15:31

YABU, I've never heard of this.

"It's all about empathy, which is why I guess the French do it."

DP and I considered moving to France, until DS was diagnosed with Autism and we seen the attitude towards those on the spectrum in France, I certainly wouldn't call them the most empathic country in the world...

WilsonFrickett · 10/09/2012 15:31

hipster

Grin
MarianneM · 10/09/2012 15:31

And anyone of any age could be tired, hungry or grumpy. Why are children any more important in that scenario?

Because they are children and their needs should definitely come before those of adults'.

Jins · 10/09/2012 15:33

You aren't seeing the whole picture MarianneM - you are just thinking about your own immediate situation.

My children's needs are dependent on me getting home in a timely manner. Are they less important?

sudaname · 10/09/2012 15:33

I have a terminal to anyone who stands on it ingrowing toenail and a neurotic one eyed cat in a cat carrier.

Me first, l think you'll find Smile

Ephiny · 10/09/2012 15:33

I've reported the sock-puppet. 1/10, please be more subtle next time.

Toughasoldboots · 10/09/2012 15:34

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TheHumancatapult · 10/09/2012 15:34

wow im amazed and i have 4 dc anda one parent and would never presume i have a right to jump a taxi rank queue and would autmatically join the back of the line

Have only done once and that was becuase the staff asked if people minded as taxi that pulled up was accesssible ( not all are )

MarianneM · 10/09/2012 15:35

Jins - sure I appreciate everyone needs to get home, but if you actually SEE someone struggling with young children, I think it is common humanity to allow them to go first.

ilovetermtime · 10/09/2012 15:35

As a quick aside, is it really that weird to push your elderly dog round in a pram?! I was planning on doing that myself Blush

TantrumsAndGoldAndOrange · 10/09/2012 15:35

No marianne they are your children.
If they are hungry, tired, bored that is your responsibility.

Not mine. Not anyone else waiting for a cab. I would consider my need to get home to my DCs more important than your children fussing because you chose to travel home at a time when they should be in bed, or tired because you decided to go a long journey or thirsty because you didn't provide a drink.

LackingNameChangeInspiration · 10/09/2012 15:49

there are lots of food outlets at Waterloo, there's no need for a child to be hungry/thirsty in the taxi que

Sirzy · 10/09/2012 15:50

Marriane - why does your inability to be organised and make sure your children are comfy mean others have to wait longer?

lisad123 · 10/09/2012 15:51

There's a big difference between jumping queue for waiting for a cab and why children go first on plane or sinking boat.
You sound entitled. You choose to have kids, you choose NOT to book a cab so therefore you have no right to complain.

TudorJess · 10/09/2012 15:52

"the french are amongst the rudest most inconsiderate peple I have ever met when it comes to queues"

French school parties are usually rowdy and shove their way along the pavement arrogantly. Not a credit to their country I'm afraid!

LadyBeagleEyes · 10/09/2012 15:52

Aw don't report.Sad
This thread is fun, I don't want it deleted.
I still say me and Oscar trump you all in the points system though.
But I will throw my dog in a pram and he gets fat points too Wink

MadBusLady · 10/09/2012 15:55

Marianne "I think it is common humanity to allow them to go first."

That's a totally different thing to what the OP is arguing though. Lots of people here have said they freely wave elderly people, people with disabilities, pregnant women etc freely into queues in front of them, and might wave a family in front of them too. I've done that.

Doesn't mean you can assume. You wait to be offered, or if you ask, you accept a "no" with good grace. You have no idea what other people's priorities are. The world does not revolve around you and/or your children.

Are you the OP?