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To be annoyed that taxi ranks don't let families in first.

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LittleTurtle · 10/09/2012 11:39

More like a rant really, sorry if it was covered before.

When we came back from holiday with the Eurostar, we went to the taxi rank. I had DC3 on the sling on my front (4 months), a backpack on my back and the babybag on the side, while holding the hands of DC1 and 2 (aged 2 and 4). DH had 2 large suitcases, a backpack and bag. I told DH we will go to the front immediately because priority is given to families and seriously with all our baggage you could tell we were not taking the piss.

When we got there, there were the paralympic guides helping people get into the taxis, when she turned to us and asked : 'Oh sorry, who came first'. There were these Carrie Bradshaw-like fashionistas to go in front of us. I told the guide that we just came in, but usually families with babies usually go first. She told me she never heard of that, and that unless we were disabled or something..........
Then one of the fashionistas took a look at all our baggage and said it's fine we can go, at which her friend said : 'Oh no, are you sure?'. Eventually we were let in, but I could not help but say to my husband, one of the fashionistas look great on the outside, but just cold on the inside. What kind of inconsiderate society have we become?

In France, there are signs all over main taxi ranks, that you let the pregnant, disabled, families with babies and tots, etc. go in before. We even naturally get called to the front by the usher as we arrive.
I realised that people in london are less keen, one day we did that, and some guy rushed to the taxi to go in front of us, and the taxi driver turned him away and told him : 'don't you see those people need more help?'.

Even before I was pregnant and had kids, I always left the lift, seats etc. to the mums and elders, so all this behaviour surprises me.

OP posts:
MadBusLady · 10/09/2012 14:22

Still no one answered about whether men would answer the same. 'No, we are men, we should be all equal'.

Er. Yes they did.

LackingNameChangeInspiration · 10/09/2012 14:22

"Still no one answered about whether men would answer the same"
yes of course they would! DH never came home from a day out with DS ranting that noone plucked them out of a que, noone answered it because its so blaringly obvious

now can you please answer me about how a taxi rank is akin to a moving vehicle or a toilet que? cause I don't get what "help" I should be wanting, thanks!

QuickLookBusy · 10/09/2012 14:22

Pregnant women

BitOutOfPractice · 10/09/2012 14:22

jins I'd vote for a party that let me jump queues

LadyBeagleEyes · 10/09/2012 14:24

Ooh, Ooh, before I go I know how to gain some points.
Saunters to the head of the queue with Oscar Pistorious on my arm.
Hahaha.

ArielThePiraticalMermaid · 10/09/2012 14:26

I wil fight you to the death for Oscar

crashdollGOLD · 10/09/2012 14:26

Some of you are being very unfair on the OP. Carrying around that heavy sense of entitlement must be very wearing on a mere mortal mother.

Ormiriathomimus · 10/09/2012 14:26

You could always try fainting. That worked for DH when he went to A&E when he cut the top of his finger off.

MadBusLady · 10/09/2012 14:26

I'm going to report you both to the committee!

LackingNameChangeInspiration · 10/09/2012 14:27

its all gonna decend into chaos now! I don't care if you've got 50 points I'll trample ya for Oscar!

LittleTurtle · 10/09/2012 14:27

If your son or anyone else has a condition that's fine. If someone comes to me and says, no you cannot go because I also have a condition, I would not argue one bit. Just like I never do in a bus. But let's face it, not that many people do.

Lots of countries do this, and I'm not gonna argue that they are crazy.

While thsi benefits women mostly, I have to say I am surprised that a lot of women in the UK argue against it.

OP posts:
BettySwollocksandaCrustyRack · 10/09/2012 14:28

am assuming that most of your who responded here have been to taxi ranks from a major station. But tell me, when has it ever been so many that needed help that it's just hard for you to wait for? At any given time, it's always just a few or none at all. It is never like your local bus stop. Has it?

BUT WHAT HELP DID YOU NEED?? You've been asked this loads and you dont answer...........

MadBusLady · 10/09/2012 14:28

Ok, so can we have an answer to Lacking's question, and can you acknowledge Ephiny's answer to your bafflingly strange "point" about men?

ArielThePiraticalMermaid · 10/09/2012 14:29

But OP, what are these countries which do this? There are a lot of well travelled people on MN and they are baffled by this assertion.

LackingNameChangeInspiration · 10/09/2012 14:29

it wouldn't benefit me tomorrow when I'm trying to get home to mind DS so DH doesn't miss his train to work.. I'll only have bump points no children or luggage points!!!! he'll miss his train and we'll be poor!

why should everyone else who is queing come forward and announce their medical history to a stranger OP?

Toughasoldboots · 10/09/2012 14:29

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BartiiMus · 10/09/2012 14:31

"I have to say I am surprised that a lot of women in the UK argue against it"

I'm not. Because a lot of women in the UK and kind and considerate and think of others.

It is polite to queue. It is polite to offer for somebody to go in front of you if you think they need it more than you (and only you can know if you have hidden disabilites/a really urgent need to get somewhere etc.).

It is not polite for you to barge to the front of the queue and declare that your needs outstrip everyone else's. Especially when your needs appear to be just that you don't want to queue with 3 children, your DH and luggage. Which when coming out of a station is not an unusual situation to be in!

Jins · 10/09/2012 14:31

It benefits women travelling with children OP. It doesn't benefit women like me who travel for work and need to get back to my children as quickly as I can.

I argue against it because it takes away certainty. If I arrive in a queue with 4 people ahead of me I know that the fifth taxi to arrive is mine. If your system is introduced all certainty has gone. I have no idea how many able bodied families like yours will rock up and push me further back in the queue.

Maybe enough will turn up to make me miss my train? Another hour before I see MY kids.

Blu · 10/09/2012 14:31

I have travelled in many many countries and have never come across an official system that parents with babies go to the front of the queue. I have many times seen people say 'here you take it' to people who seem to be in need, whether it be a seat on a bust or tube, a checkout queue when a baby is screaming, and young teen girls late at night in the cab queue. And that is how it should be, of course - perhaps more than actually happens.

I think it fine to be considerate to anyone in need - whether feeling sick from morning sickness, or from having drunk too much at a fashionista reception, whether frail and old and struggling with bags, or carrying twins and managing stroppy toddlers.

All that is very different from a parent with children just assuming that they can go straight to the front of a queue just because they have a baby! Extremely presumptious. Your situation was not more vulnerable than that of someone who may have been finding standing hard due to arthritis, or whatever.

MadBusLady · 10/09/2012 14:32

"But let's face it, not that many people do."

What, have a medical condition, or have the presence of mind to argue with the astonishingly rude moose who has just blatantly pushed in front of them?

Sirzy · 10/09/2012 14:32

But OP, what are these countries which do this? There are a lot of well travelled people on MN and they are baffled by this assertion.

Proof if needed that the op lives on a different planet to us all surely?

LackingNameChangeInspiration · 10/09/2012 14:34

"I have to say I am surprised that a lot of women in the UK argue against it"

because, thankfully, a lot of women in the UK look at other people and appreciate that their time is just as important as ours even if we don't know why

most women in the UK understand that everyone has their own cross to bear
They may be rushing home to a wandering elderly parent, they may be in pain that you cant see that they don't wanna announce to the world, they might be holding back tears after a horrible day at work, they might be infertile or bereaved and not want to be told that they're less important because they are not with children, they may be pregnant but following losses don't want their colleage beside them to know until they've had a scan, they could have left work early because they're misscarrying....................

BitOutOfPractice · 10/09/2012 14:35

Now you've pissed me off op. please don't assume you're the only person who has travelled beyond the end of their street

I have travelled a fair bit and I can say categorically that I have never been to a country where people queue in a more orderly or fair fashion than the uk. The French certainly don't. They would trample their own grandmother underfoot to get ahead ime.

ceeveebee · 10/09/2012 14:36

Well I scored 42 points today (baby twins, DH away with work, 1 stone overweight and terrible hay fever) but I decided to jump on the bus instead of getting a cab.

OP get a grip. And book a mini cab in future if you're too helpless to queue up

MadBusLady · 10/09/2012 14:36

Now, that is empathy.

Wasting your time though, I fear.

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