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To be annoyed that taxi ranks don't let families in first.

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LittleTurtle · 10/09/2012 11:39

More like a rant really, sorry if it was covered before.

When we came back from holiday with the Eurostar, we went to the taxi rank. I had DC3 on the sling on my front (4 months), a backpack on my back and the babybag on the side, while holding the hands of DC1 and 2 (aged 2 and 4). DH had 2 large suitcases, a backpack and bag. I told DH we will go to the front immediately because priority is given to families and seriously with all our baggage you could tell we were not taking the piss.

When we got there, there were the paralympic guides helping people get into the taxis, when she turned to us and asked : 'Oh sorry, who came first'. There were these Carrie Bradshaw-like fashionistas to go in front of us. I told the guide that we just came in, but usually families with babies usually go first. She told me she never heard of that, and that unless we were disabled or something..........
Then one of the fashionistas took a look at all our baggage and said it's fine we can go, at which her friend said : 'Oh no, are you sure?'. Eventually we were let in, but I could not help but say to my husband, one of the fashionistas look great on the outside, but just cold on the inside. What kind of inconsiderate society have we become?

In France, there are signs all over main taxi ranks, that you let the pregnant, disabled, families with babies and tots, etc. go in before. We even naturally get called to the front by the usher as we arrive.
I realised that people in london are less keen, one day we did that, and some guy rushed to the taxi to go in front of us, and the taxi driver turned him away and told him : 'don't you see those people need more help?'.

Even before I was pregnant and had kids, I always left the lift, seats etc. to the mums and elders, so all this behaviour surprises me.

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SusanneLinder · 10/09/2012 13:53

Having been in London for work, I have been that "fashionista" :o, that has stood in a taxi queue (not the same ones that the OP is talking about). I may have not had my kids, but I have had delayed planes and been late for meetings.

I would be a tad annoyed if some woman thought she had more entitlement to get a taxi before me, just cause she had kids.

Oh and having been in Paris many times, they are NOT as olderly as the British. Its survival of the bloody fittest :o

ToadsPornFrogsPawn · 10/09/2012 13:53

LittleTurtle, the big deal is that you are assuming your needs (or wishes, cos you haven't really got extra needs) trump everyone elses. Which isn't fair or just or in accordance with British cultural expectations of waiting your turn in a queue.
Hth

LadyBeagleEyes · 10/09/2012 13:53

I'm not entitled to any points Sad

Kewcumber · 10/09/2012 13:54

I think mothers are pretty good at empathising with people and are probably more likely to let people with a genuine disability (temporary or permanent) go ahead. The fact that so many mothers on this thread are slightly baffled that you consider that your totally able bodied family to count as having a degree of disability should tell you something.

Bobbish · 10/09/2012 13:54

I get 31 points but think I deserve way more than 5 for being without DH. A 36 hour journey from NZ to UK with DD age 3 and 5 month old DD2 with no DH was excruciating. Though I did get offers of help at every point (well mainly other women offering their DPs Grin )

Randomchocolatebiscuit · 10/09/2012 13:55

but Kew that heavily pregnant woman might just be fat, and therefore offended if you offered to let her go first.
I like the tattoo idea. Might be useful at work too, where certain members of staff from other departments who do not know me very well have been known to complain to the big boss about me using the disabled loo (how dare I??)

Sirzy · 10/09/2012 13:55

LadyBeagle - I am willing to lend you a tantruming 2 year old if you wish to get further up the queues?

Or perhaps you could put a doll in a pram and pretend you have a newborn?

Crinkle77 · 10/09/2012 13:56

No why should they? They have always been first come first served. What would happen if a gang of friends kept having to wait cos more and more families came to the rank. How would that be fair?

Kewcumber · 10/09/2012 13:56

tatoo is the way to go then - perhaps semi-permanent ones for things like pregnancy.

Maybe if the OP had a "I find it a bit hard to manage my children" one on her forehead we would be a bit more sympathetic?

WilsonFrickett · 10/09/2012 13:57

Oooooh Berti then I could get more points for having completely useless bits of baggage hanging off me too, couldn't I?

Sirzy · 10/09/2012 13:58

actually do children sulking/tantrumming/screaming mean you get more points?

missymoomoomee · 10/09/2012 13:58

I have hayfever, I also can't wear my contact lenses for longer than 8 hours as it makes my eyes a bit sore, and I'm allergic to cheese and may encounter some in the queue surely will get me some extra points too.....

LackingNameChangeInspiration · 10/09/2012 13:58

OP when are you going to answer my question?

I understand why my pregnant self and toddler DS are less able to stand in MOVING vehicles, I understand why we sometimes need to skip the loo que, but why are you saying we're less able to stand at the taxi rank

I really really wanna know!

BartiiMus · 10/09/2012 13:58

Bobbish Grin

I do find other mothers to be the most sympathetic. I have also been known to offer a mum help carrying her pushchair up the stairs but she was Blush and refused as I was carrying DS in a sling. Our conversation guilt-tripped a businessman into helping Grin

LadyBeagleEyes · 10/09/2012 13:59

Ta very much for the 2 year old Sirzy Grin
I may kidnap some triplets too.
I will abandon them all as soon as I get in the taxi though.

CleoSmackYa · 10/09/2012 13:59

6 points Sad

DawnOfTheDee · 10/09/2012 13:59

Your comments have been taken on board HeartsTrumpsDiamonds.

For every half stone over your ideal weight you are you get 2 points.

WilsonFrickett - A cat will be provided at the queue to prove any cat-induced asthma claims.

Toughasoldboots · 10/09/2012 14:00

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edam · 10/09/2012 14:00

It'd never occurred to me that 9yo ds might be a queue-jumping asset. All these years I've waited in line politely, never dreaming of barging to the front. How many opportunities wasted!

Don't remember any French people letting us go first when we took ds over to Paris a couple of years ago either...

DawnOfTheDee · 10/09/2012 14:01

Missymoo - we'll also have some cheese and a bunch of flowers on standby.

Cheese allergy = 2 points
Hayfever = 6 points in summer, 1 in winter

Sirzy · 10/09/2012 14:01

Wonders about the legalities of standing near queues hiring out DS to get people more points......

Ormiriathomimus · 10/09/2012 14:01

Really? You queue-jumped then got annoyed because someone objected.

Good lord.

RubberBullets · 10/09/2012 14:02

How many points if you have a dog in a buggy? I have seen weirdos people pushing them round town and that could be an alternative for those of you with hardly any points

CinnabarRed · 10/09/2012 14:02

I score 35 points when DH isn't with me. Get behind me, mortals!

LittleTurtle · 10/09/2012 14:03

I am assuming that most of your who responded here have been to taxi ranks from a major station. But tell me, when has it ever been so many that needed help that it's just hard for you to wait for? At any given time, it's always just a few or none at all. It is never like your local bus stop. Has it?

And can you stop going on about the fashionista, as I had pointed out, this could be your banker, or tight skinned jeans rock bank wannabee.

Up to now, do not see how other countries did not see a a major problem with this(seeing that it's a minority of people).

As for not seen disabilities etc. When you go to the bus, what do you do about the disability seats, usually?

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