to be pissed off

[Twiggy71]

with my dsis when I told her I find it hard work at times being a single parent with 2 dc and having a full time job.

She replied you should try running two homes (she has a flat in a major city and a country home). And is married with two dc and her dh and her both work full-time.....

sounds like you both have busy lives.. it isnt a competion though.. no reason to be pissed off with her.. it was just a comment she made..

You aren't in her shoes and she's not in yours. Why bother to be pissed off?

YABU. It is chuffing difficult. She is trying to empathise with you by showing that her life isn't simple either.

Depends. Was it a one-off, or does she normally try this one-upmanship/competitive martyrdom on you?

Mostly though, YANBU. Having to look after a second home isn't really comparable to doing everything by yourself.

Tell her to get some staff in if she's that rich.

Well that's what I thought Thumbwitch single parent hood is something usually which happens out of your control.

Whereas your choosing a lifestyle where you have two homes is a choice. And if you find it hard its by choice...

just because her problems are different doesnt mean they don't exist.

I never meant that I was jealous of what my dsis has, its great she has what she has and would never begrudge her anything..

I just thought that sometimes the hardship you experience when being a single parent is not in comparison to running two homes...

She could have been a bit more tactful about it, yeah.

just because he life is by choice doesn't mean its easy.
I wonder if (not realising) moan alot and she feels think get life is easy.
I do know how hard bring a lone parent is so you do have my sympathy.

yet another "my life is considerably harder than yours" threads?

It's not a competition. Get over it.

YANBU
IMO you should be able to offload emotional shit like this to your sister.
Her response was dismissive and unsympatheitic. Of course it's tough being a single parent anyone can see that.
However, it's probably not worth falling out over as that becomes exhausting.
If this is a relationship you normally value I'd say wait for the sting to wear off and let it go, sometimes we all say things that are thoughtless.

It is a competition WhatYou, which I win because my life is far harder than anything you have to put up with

If you're happy with the relationship you have with your sister OP, I wouldn't let this bother you.

Sometimes people tell you the difficulties they're having to let you know they know how you feel and you're not alone, rather than make you feel worse.