To have expected my friend to phone me ?

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My friend asked me if I could look after her 6 year old dd for an hour this morning which I was more than happy to do so she dropped her off at 10am When she hadn't reappeared after 2 hours I tried calling her and got no reply. I couldn't get hold of her and was getting really worried but obviousy not wanting to let her DD know I was concerned.

She finally turned up at 2.15pm saying "sorry I'm a bit late but I bumped into an old university friend and we went for lunch". I lost my temper with her a bit to be honest saying I was really worried about her and that she'd messed up our day

To be honest if she'd called I wouldn't have had a problem and would have just scooped up her dd and taken her to the park and for a picnic which was our plan for the day but with no phone call at all I was getting really worried.

her comment about not thinking you'd be worried - what about her daughter ??

That's what I thought too Longdistance

Similar thing happened to me once and I was bloody fuming. Mum dropped her ds of at 6pm, said shed be back by 9 latest to collect him. Tbh I wasn't thrilled with this anyway as my children go to bed at 7.

Anyway, she turned up at 10AM, the next MORNING!! God I was cross. She hadn't phoned or texted or anything, just said she assumed it would be ok....

My sil does this all the time! she will ask you to look after her kids so she can go to an appointment then not return for hours!

Do and I now avoid watching her dc when possible, it's so rude. She does it to everyone, it shows a complete lack of respect for other peoples time, YANBU!

That is a really selfish thing for her to have done! She knew it was too, hence her turning her phone off.

I wouldn't have stayed in either, just carried on with my day. Don't bother helping her out in future, she can find some other mug to take advantage of.

She planned to use you for free childcare while she went shopping with friends and for lunch.

Goodness, I'd be absolutely fuming. Agree with those who said that she had the plan all along to leave her daughter with you for all that time. Otherwise, according to her story, she'd had something planned from 10-11, bumped into the friend between those times, and went for LUNCH from 11am onwards? No. Either she was already way late beyond 11am when she bumped into the friend (in which case she's already taking the piss by not contacting you after an hour) or the whole thing was pre-planned.

did she meet up with a man and have sordid sex somewhere do you think?

There has to be more to it...an otherwise normal friend would never think this was ok....something compelled her

does she have a partner? could she be having an affair?

if she had planned a lunch date with friends all along, surely she would just have asked you to have her dd for the morning instead of just 1 hour . I dont see why you all think she would have done that

i think who ever she met, or something she was doing is dodgy...making it less than straight forward to ask you to have dd a bit longer...because either you would say no (and its something she really wanted to do) or she didnt want to have to explain the reason she was going to be late?

yanbu. its compleatly unacceptable and irresponsable

i have a friend who asked me to watch her dc whilst she nipped to the shops, she returned 3 weeks later surprised that i wouldnt let her take the dc (she was wankered) he ended up living with me on and off untill he hit 17.

3 weeks later? O M G!

Yanbu I would have gone out all day and left my phone at home

yep 3 weeks not a call or anything,twas the days when pagers were 'in' and she wouldnt even respond to being paged. years later she told me it was because she knew she was being a very crap mother had no family ect (the child was concieved as a result of rape) and knew i would look after him and not just call ss.

the dc involved and her are now very much a part of my extended family she sorted herself out and we got over it.

I am thinking same as Amonthefone. If you bumped into regular friend you would text/ call at the very least respond to calls.

My suspicious mind is saying that she didn't want to be disturbed for a reason.

Imonthefone, even.

YANBU. Is she married??