To hate being pregnant?

[M0naLisa]

Grrrr SPD and back ache and heartburn is the Bain of my life right now. I've still got 3 months to go :(
Aibu to hate pregnancy :'(

YANBU to hate SPD and heartburn etc - I suffered really badly with these when pregnant with dd. It's shit.

But YABU to hate being pregnant because you're lucky that you can be. I'd have loved another child but it wasn't to be.

But I'll forgive you because you're probably all hormonal.

I agree I am bu to hate pregnancy. I dislike pregnancy.

I am lucky and it's an awesome feeling when baby moving about but the pain that comes with it is awful

Hopefully it will get better soon, OP. And you won't be pregnant forever, even though it might feel that way right now. :)

YANBU

Pregnancy is a means to a wonderful end IMO, you may not be ill but it sure can make you feel so.

My DH has had the snip so no more babies for me, but if that failed and I fell pregnant again I honestly don't think I could see it though as I would be incapable of looking after my kids. Pregnancy REALLY doesn't agree with me.

However you are nearly on the home run now OP. Keep your eyes on the prize and I hope you feel better soon x

Yanbu, it is awful, uncomfortable, painful, etc. Nobody gets pregnant because its a barrel of laughs (although I do hear some people enjoy it, goodness only knows how, lucky sods!). I hated being pg, had spd too, amongst various other things. But it is more than worth it, an absolute bargain in fact, when you have your lovely baby at the end! :-)

YANBU I hated being pregnant I never bloomed as they say you are supposed to do, felt sick for the most of both pregnancies, had constant urine infections that put me into early labour TWICE and was just glad when it was all over,

OK I disliked being pregnant hate is a strong word isn't it

I'm worrying to which is added stress. I've got GBS and the leaflets and words from midwives are scary

I agree totally. The first pg was just about bearable, despite all the pain you describe, but the second was hideous .....spd piles, backache etc etc. worse than before. I even shouted at me very large bump I hate you

When DD came out though I was in love with her from the first second, and am since. It's not a sin to hate the process and doesn't mean you will hate the product.

Fwiw don't feel bad or guilty no need to add to the pain!

GBS is treatable so don't worry

I hated everything about it too, except the fact I was carrying DS, if that makes sense. I actually found dealing with a newborn easier than being preggo (!)

I v strongly disliked being pregnant. I was hot, stressed, uncomfortable, in pain with sciatica and heartburn, had manic road rage , and put on about 2 stone each time.

But it was totally worth it for the end results. Not sure if I can face it again though...YANBU

Yanbu to hate being pregnant. I completely understand but for some odd reason I can't wait to be hating being pregnant again

Yanbu to dislike being pregnant, just think of all the newborn snuggles you'll be having in 3 months, it'll be worth it. trying to convince myself also that in 7 months I'll be having some lovely newborn snuggles.

YANBU, pregnancy was not enjoyable for me, personally. I found the early stages horrendous with morning sickness, tiredness, and getting every cold going. I was also alone, from start to now.

I found the 2nd trimester hard, as I had gall stones, so I was ill during that, then the 3rd trimester was also difficult as my DD was a big baby and she would move at such a rate that it was uncomfortable and aggravated my gall stones more!

I then had 7 days of trying to have her naturally, I also found the newborn stage extremely difficult, DD is 4 now, greatest thing that ever happened, wonderful, beautiful, funny, but I wouldn't have another.

Good luck, it is worth it in the end, obviously ha

YANBU, with DS1 I hated HATED everything about pregnancy apart from the fact that I was going to hae DS if that makes sense!

now that I am on pregnancy no2 I realise that I was totally justified, it WAS a much more physically uncomfortable and life limiting pregnancy - at the time I thought I was just being whingy and ungrateful!

Yanbu, I hated most things about being pregnant, but loved the kicks and feeling the baby move.

YANBU

I hate pregnancy too. There is a world of difference between hating being pregnant and hating having a baby so don't feel guilty because others have fertility problems as they're all separate issues and none are your fault.

I even hated the kicks with DS1, but even now he is PAINFUL to cuddle, all elbows and kneeing you in the tummy! could never bedshare with him you'ld wake up black and blue (he is not violent he's just all knees and elbows, and is very sweet and affectionate in other ways)

plus had an anterior placenta so only felt the big violent kicks to my ribs or pelvis/bladder, not the little tummy wriggles like I feel with pregnancy no2. DS1's kicks HURT!

I also hated the kicks with DS1 because due to the anterior placenta the kicks (or gaps between when he was kicking but I couldn't feel because it wasn't right at the top/bottom) were a constant source of stress

I was "diagnosed" with antenatal depression when I made the mistake of mentioning this to a friend in real life! I wasn't depressed, they REALLY did hurt and I never felt any gentle kicks till pregnancy no2. and as I say DS1 is PAINFUL to share a bed with (but lovely and sweet and will run up for kisses all the time )

YANBU- after a week in hospital with hyperemesis I started to feel really guilty cos, as much as I loved baby, I just wanted to get rid of it. Still counting down the days till baby is out and I can give it a good snuggle instead of just looking down at little bump and resenting it (I only use it because I don't know the gender).

But women that can't have babies have significantly more to complain about.

I never used to understand threads like this because I absolutely loved my first pregnancy . . .

Then I got pregnant again. OMG, I have had constant all day nausea, heart burn, pounding headaches, asthma, incessant sneezing (wtf?), chronic constipation and or/the runs, wind, and possibly the beginning of piles! (never been entirely sure what they are ). I'm only 14 weeks!!

I loved being pg when i was younger - felt really well and everyone commented on how lovely my hair and complexion were.

but my last pg was hell. i felt ill the whole time and it came as such a shock because the others had been a breeze.

I feel for you OP. Hope you've got family as slaves rallying round for you.

YANBU.Poor you.I hope it eases soon.

And why do people always have to bring fertility issues into this? I have fertility issues and when I'm lucky enough to get pregnant I'm still going to have a bloody good moan if I feel awful,and why shouldn't I? It wouldn't mean that I'm not happy that I'm having a baby,and likewise with the OP.

Well said cherry re fertility issues.
I hated every minute of being pregnant, there was not a single aspect I enjoyed and I am terribly envious of those who 'glowed' and loved it etc.
My labour was termed 'traumatic' but it was still the highlight for me, largely because the end was insight I think.
Hope things improve for you OP.