to want to punch the next person that says I am huge/massive!!

[thebeesnees79]

I am 35 weeks pregnant with baby number three and so sick of people telling me I am massive or baby is going to be a whopper. or my all time favourite are you sure its just one, aagggghhhh.

I am actually small for dates and since 28 weeks I am measuring 2/3 weeks smaller and need a growth scan if I am still small at 36 weeks.
so aibu to want to punch the next person that tells me how huge I am

It's annoying but you'll forget all about it when baby arrives. I'm normally quite skinny and put on 50% of my body weight by about 8 months pregnant. MD of the company I work asked if it was safe for me to still be in the building at 6 months!!

I loved being pregnant WestYork, and was huge and had whopping babies, and I could rationalise that I was doing it for amazing reasons and I'd pay 10 times over for what my body was producing.

But - I didn't like feeling so cumbersome, you can't help but waddle and I felt a bit vulnerable about it all.

It's not always so easy to brush off what are off the cuff remarks from someone not thinking when you feel like that.

I think in most cases the person saying it is just looking for something to say in an "I'm acknowledging you're pregnant and showing an interest" kind of way. It probably wouldn't occur to them that they might be the 20th person that day/week to make a size-related comment OR that it might be taken personally because there's no intent to be hurtful as everyone knows it's a temporary increase. They probably see it as a fairly 'safe' innocuous comment to make.

Obviously I'm not including the people who insist you're wrong or try to give a lecture, because that's just plain rude and you'd be within your rights to beat them to death with a shovel be equally rude back to them, OP.

Psammead I rarely genuinely laugh out loud at a post but yours did it for me!

I remember when I was 38 weeks pregnant with my twins I went out with my friend for a pre induction curry and boogie. I was trying in vain to get things moving :) a bloke would not believe my bump was real and thought I was in fancy dress!
I was totally enormous and did manage to clear the dance floor as everyone looked on in horror :) :)

I feel for you. I had the opposite because I was small in both of my pregnancies. I did look pregnant but only from certain angles!

But I got "ooh you are small", "Is it a problem that you are small?", and with DS "you should be bigger than that. You do realise you could lose him if you don't get bigger?". I was also accused of not eating properly so that I could stay small. The implication being that I was selfish and didn't deserve to have children because I was more concerned with losing my figure . The fact is that I was doing my best but I was incredibly sick throughout both pregnancies and couldn't keep anything down.

Both my children were born early - 1 induced and 1 EMCS due to their small size/poor growth. People just don't think.

Then when DD was born (3.5lb) the world and his wife seemed to think they could approach me in the supermarket and ask for all the gory details!

Some people don't know what to say, some people are just curious/interested/nosy, some people are downright rude!

I would never tell a woman who is in her 35th week of pregnancy that she is BU, so therefore YANBU!

Well I might be going against the grain here but I didn't mind people telling me I was huge. It was the baby they were referring to after all and not my arse or anything.

I never wanted to punch anyone for making smalltalk, and it's not as if anyone meant "you are a fat greedy cow who can't stop eating". they were commenting on my amazing bump so I never minded.

To be honest if I saw a Tshirt with "Yes there is only one, no I'm not due yet, no I'm normal size" etc I'd think it was a bit hostile and rude actually!

My babies were huge 11lb and 9.8lb. I was overjoyed and loved every minute. And yes I was massive and I didn't carer!