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to wonder if he should be doing more?

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TescoValueNickname · 07/09/2012 15:08

DS is 9 months old and goes to a few baby groups and the like, just to keep him busy and start him on the route to some hobbies in later life.

However, a friend has just told me her DD (5 days younger) is starting private (individual) music classes when she turns 1, so that any nascent talent can be nurtured from as early as possible, rather than waiting until she starts school. Friend has hired a professional musician to teach her DD in their own home.

I am now a bit worried that I have missed the boat here, as I have only got DS going to 1 group music activity, where his abilities don't really stand out. Should he be doing more focused classes in the new year? (and if he does, the next dilemma is which of his other classes to cut from our schedule?)

what should I do?

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BettySwollocksandaCrustyRack · 07/09/2012 15:09

carry on what you are doing and ignore these bloody supermothers.

Your friend sounds ridiculous!!

ProudNeathGirl · 07/09/2012 15:10

Oh for God's sake! Music classes at 1?? Professional musician for tutoring at home???

Is this a joke post?

NCForNow · 07/09/2012 15:10

Oh please.

EnglishGirlApproximately · 07/09/2012 15:11

I think your friend is a bit bonkers Grin I think it's much better for children to naturally discover what their interests are and develop them at their own pace than be forced into a hobby from a very young age.

I'm sure lots of people will disagree though

FuckityFuckFuck · 07/09/2012 15:12

Really? Really

That is utterly ridiculous

Please tell me this is a joke post, or I may weep at the preciousness of it all

PurplePidjin · 07/09/2012 15:14

What should you do? Collapse in a fit of mirth at how ridiculous your friend is being!

chirpchirp · 07/09/2012 15:15

Your friend sounds ridiculous. At 1 there is nothing your DS will learn from a "professional muscian" that you couldn't teach him yourself. Shake some bells, sing some songs and clap your hands. That's really all there is too

wonkylegs · 07/09/2012 15:18

Once you pick yourself up off the floor from laughing at your friend. Revel in the fact that you will have more spare money to put towards your DC's future education/family life at a point it actually will make a difference.

Alcestis · 07/09/2012 15:25

What other classes is he doing? I'm in a similar situation as my DS is currently attending 2 language classes (Spanish and Mandarin) but my DS had her DD learning four before starting Primary school.

LaurieFairyCake · 07/09/2012 15:27

Alcestis - you jest surely Hmm

How old is your DS that he is attending Spanish and Manderin classes? (please say either secondary school or that you and your dh are Spanish/Chinese)

YummyNumber1 · 07/09/2012 15:31

I say the earlier the better! Their brains are like sponges at this age and if you can get professional help then why not? Your little one will be miles ahead by the time they reach school. People are so lazy about teaching their lo's the essentials these days. We owe it to them as parents to help them become the best they can be!

I take my lo to several classes and she's already so much more advaced than her older cousins Smile

Alcestis · 07/09/2012 15:31

Laurie - he's 6 months so obviously he doesn't take part but my DH does evening classes and takes DS along so he can soak up the languages. We both feel it's important to immerse him in these as early as possible.

MotherNurture12 · 07/09/2012 15:33

This is very interesting. We are hoping to get our 1 year old into the best school in our area and have put her name on the waiting list. I am going to see what classes are available here as it should help her application. What do you think I should be looking for? Piano lessons or elocution classes? What other classes does your baby do?

ProudNeathGirl · 07/09/2012 15:33

Alcestis you're having a laugh - right?

ClippedPhoenix · 07/09/2012 15:35

Your friend clearly has more money than sense Grin

LaurieFairyCake · 07/09/2012 15:35

Your DH is taking a 6 month old to language classes so he can soak up the languages.

That's the best thing I've ever heard Grin

Bet you can't say it with a straight face...

LaurieFairyCake · 07/09/2012 15:36

LOL at Mothernurture - fantastic.

I think a 'Classics' class will be your best bet but it's such a trial to find one.

YummyNumber1 · 07/09/2012 15:41

My lo has a schedule so as well as going to classes she has Maths, English and 'How to be a lady' lessons that I teach her in. She's doing really well for 18 monthsSmile

LaurieFairyCake · 07/09/2012 15:50

Is that 'how to be a lady' Little Britain style Yummy Wink

eslteacher · 07/09/2012 15:57

I haven't conceived a child as of yet, but should I be exposing my eggs to more classical music? I'be spent most of my life thus far listening mainly to cheesy pop, so am starting to panic that I've done too much damage now to have any hope of producing a future classical virtuoso...

MrsTerrysChocolateOrange · 07/09/2012 15:57

You are all useless Mothers. DD is ahead of the curve in smearing, screeching AND scratching herself in revolting places.

She is actually bilingual because she had a Mexican childcare worker so ya boo sucks.

bonkersLFDT20 · 07/09/2012 15:59

I think any music teacher worth their salt would refuse to teach such a young child, but maybe give you a few tips on introducing a love of music e.g. have a range of different styles playing, take them along to baby music sessions, sing all the time.

I used to take my babe in arms along to concerts (choral). It was more for me, but it was easy enough to take him along (BF).

I suspect you might be joking though. What do you mean "which other classes to cut from your schedule"?

BalloonSlayer · 07/09/2012 16:07

Your friend is being ridiculous and a bad mother leaving it as late as 1 to start nurturing her DD's nascent talent.

I hired a private music teacher just before my 12 week scan, she attached specially-designed headphones to my bump and played Mozart while the scan was in progress so that she could monitor DS's movements and response to the music. She was able to inform me that DS was very musical indeed and would probably become a concert pianist if I enrolled him on her special programme. I did not get to find out the details unfortunately because the stupid bloody sonographer got all cross and heavy handed and ejected her from the room! So stupid! Disrupting the sonic waves indeed! I tried to find her when I came out but there had been some sort of security alert and the police were there and we missed each other in all the kerfuffle.

ShesBack · 07/09/2012 16:14

I eat only one type of food per day: And the ONLY words i will speak/recite during that day is the name of the food in 10 languages. Today is Banana day. When my pfb is born, it will already know ALL the foods, and what they are called....in 10 languages! I pity all the stupid fetuses.

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TescoValueNickname · 07/09/2012 16:20

Oh I am glad you all think she is mad. DH was worried I would want to cancel the greco-roman wrestling class in favour of music. Although tbh I think music would be nicer in the long run!! :)

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