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Crossandratty · 06/09/2012 18:38

Have name changed so as not to out myself!

DS started a block of 5 art/creative classes today, he is nearly 3yo. I'd already asked beforehand how much parental involvement there'd be because I wanted something where he has a bit more free rein, and that as I'm 39 weeks preg, I didn't want to be hugely participating and handholding.
The answer I got was as much or little involvement as the parent wants. Great, sounded perfect.
I get there and the teacher doesn't even address the kids. It's all adult convo. The kids are getting bored. We also have to wait because one parent is late... But we still get kicked out on time. We are told its 50:50 participation parent and child in the artwork. Also it's in a tiny hot room with no windows open, and we're to sit on the floor....great with a 39 week lump, SPD and back pain. Super.

It was not what I was led to believe at all, do I say at the end of the 5 lessons or email her now? Not that it can achieve much, I won't get my money back, and it'll just be awkward for the next 4 weeks. DS did enjoy some of it, but was a bit frustrated because he wanted more independence. We do arty things together lots at home, so I've nothing against working with him, I was just looking for something to suit our current situation and a bit different from what we do at home.

She did ask at the end how we all found it, and the other mums gushed, and I just said yes DS enjoyed it, but it is basically what we do at home. Not sure she's the type to get the message.

Also, she ended up spending 5 minutes talking with the other mums about renovation possibilities for the art room, and when the lesson itself was only just over 20 mins due to late arrivals, I thought this was unprofessional.

Should I just get a life??? But money is tight at the moment, it makes me ratty when people take the mick.

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NatashaBee · 06/09/2012 18:41

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MrsMiniversCharlady · 06/09/2012 18:41

I would email her now and say that it's not at all how she described it and you wouldn't have booked the class if you'd known how much input you'd need to have. Therefore you'd like your money back! At this early stage I think it's quite reasonable to ask for a refund given that you'd specifically asked about involvement.

helenthemadex · 06/09/2012 18:42

I would say something its not what you expected and not what you were lead to believe it would be, it would annoy me if I had paid good money for something and it turned out to be something I could do at home far more comfortably!!

Just email her and tell her saying what you have said here yanbu

Crossandratty · 06/09/2012 19:06

Thanks everyone, i think I'll email tonight and see if I can get my moneY back.

Feel better for venting!

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TheMonster · 06/09/2012 19:15

I Gree. Ask now for a refund. The course was mis-sold to you.

TheMonster · 06/09/2012 19:15

I Gree? Sodding iPad predictive text. I Agree.

BeyondTheLimitsOfAcceptability · 06/09/2012 19:17

Did you ask in writing about how much involvement you would need? Cause if you did, you have proof that you were deliberately misled, if she starts to get shitty with you....
And I'm quite sure that is illegal :)

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