to be floored by a 3yr old

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first day at school for pfb and i have just been dismissed, when asked shall mummy stay for a little bit - never been in child care before so first time away from me really- the reponse "no pick me up later!"

Cue me bawling my eyes out in the car.

Mine asked me to drop her off at the gate in the second week. She got much more clingy about eight weeks in if that makes you feel any better!

My DM says I did the same thing.

You have made your child confident and independant and able to go out into the world without a fuss. You should be very proud of yourself and your child!

Aww, bless you! If it makes you feel better, I did the same to my DM when I was two when she took me to hospital to have an operation under GA! She has never forgotten the rejection
My own DS was similarly nonchalant about starting pre-school yesterday.

I think it's excellent parenting to raise a child so happy and confident.

I had the same thought as MammaTJ. Your child has absolute confidence that you will be back later. (Not suggesting that those with clingy children are bad parents, obs.)

If it makes you feel better when ds was nearly 3 and starting his first playgroup session he didn't even say goodbye to me. He got fed up in the office waiting for me to fill in the forms so asked one of the group leaders to take him in instead. Charming!

I never understand parents who are upset by this sort of thing. Do you want your child to be clinging to your leg and crying at the thought of you leaving? You should be proud of having brought your toddler up so far to feel confident and happy in new situations. Go and enjoy the chance to look in some shops/read a magazine without constant interruption for a bit!

Dd2 has just started full time reception and on the 1st day i took her in (all the other parents were going in too) to show her where her peg was then left (still loads of parents in when i left) 2nd day I left her at the door to go in herself (which she was happy to do), but i noticed all the other parents bar one or two still going in with their kids. I wasn't sure if i had to go in or not so I asked the teacher but she said no its fine and off Dd went. I reckon if you make a fuss about it the kids will get nervous and not want you to go. Start as you mean to go on and let them go in themselves (of course if the kid is obviously upset see to them, but most of the kids were happily going off to do their own think with parents looking on)

DS did the same thing.

He did it again this morning on his first day at reception. I also bawled when I got home.

thanks, i am glad he is so confident it was just such a shock how it hit me, how fast they grow up had sudden visions of girlfriends and then ahh a wife (note to self must not be crazy mil)

took myself shopping to distract - cue expense and time wasting lol

Why did you cry? I felt bereft wheny 2 year old started full time education. Blind children have a 3 year head start.

Do 3 year olds go to school in the UK?

When dd started nursery school she wanted the childminder to take her on her first day. I was , but that's what we did and I picked her up. She was and is very independent.

Op, that's got to be better than her being in tears, that would be awful.

I read that wrong....

One of my then 2 1/2 yr old actually knocked me out - he found a metal tube behind the sofa and smacked me round the head with it ...... I came round on the floor to both boys giving me kisses to wake me up... sleeping beauty style

I was 'escorted out' of the boys nursery on the first day after going in with them and staying for 10 minutes i went to the loo to find the head teacher outside the door suguesting that they are both happy and i am to leave them too it ... whilst walking me to the door;)

my dd aged 2 shouted happily bye bye mummy- you aren't staying are you?
no i replied see you later and waited till was outside and bubbled.

Correct me if wrong but I think SoleSource is saying that her child is blind and started full-time school at two? Or have I read that wrong?

My own DD happily went off to Nursery and (different primary) School without a bat of an eyelid, has never been with a minder or stayed with any family member more than an hour or two. I too was upset as you feel rejected but very happy that she wasn't crying/ upset for me to leave her.

My DD2 (age 2) has just come back from a visit with my s-i-l. Never been away from home before and wasn't in the slightest bit bothered abut saying goodbye, speaking to me on the phone etc, and not even interested in a big hug when she came home after 5 days away! (just wanted to show me her lolly that she had had in a party bag! I agree there's something nice about thinking that you've raised a confident, happy child but a little bit of me wants her to miss me (just a little bit!)

Sorry, she's 3!

When mine were about 6 they went to a party in Chukee-Cheese, wouldn't let me leave or even sit down. Then DD1 ran up to me with a huge and said Mummy, I don't need you!

i just realise the constant conflict of guilt

wanting them to want me but wanting them to spread their wings
wanting to be there for them but wanting them be independant
wanting them not to make the same mistakes but knowing thats how the learn
have come to the conclusion

bugger it time for gin and tonic

DD (nearly 3) at nursery for the first time a few months ago, was fine when I left and tucking into her lunch when I arrived to collect her. She shouted across the room "Oh my Mummy! I love you! I have missed you! You can go again now, I am eating my lunch!"