to be not keen at husband taking nearly 7-year-old daughter to pub to watch footie?

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He says it is a family pub, with other children present. We are talking about afternoon footie games, say about 5 til 6ish. I do trust him that it is not a rowdy place packed out with cheering swearing men, but I just find it a little odd, the thought of my 6-year-old spending leisure time down the pub. I'd feel the same if it was a boy.

He says it's a nice way for them to spend quality time together (although to be honest, this is not in short supply as he works mainly from home and sees her plenty). Daughter is happy enough to go as she gets the treat of a bag of crisps and a drink of coke (something we only allow occasionally), and she's mildly interested in football.

I actually suspect the main reasons he wants her there is (a) some company for him as he watches the match and (b) he's trying to "toughen her up". It's true she can be a timid little thing, prone to Disney princess adoration.

There is an alternative though - a local leisure centre with a TV bar, which seems more family orientated. So WIBU to ask him to only take her to the leisure centre bar instead?

Yes that would be unreasonable and more than a it controlling.

It's a family pub - not a nest of wasps.

Yes you are being unreasonable. It's a family pub, there's no swearing and it could develop into an activity that they can share for years to come. They could even end up going to matches in the future, getting a season ticket for the local club for example.

Your daughter's happy, your husband's happy, you get time on your own, where's the problem?

It's great to see a pub where children are welcomed. If you're concerned, why don't you go along with them next time to check it out?

In my experience, the bar in the local leisure centre is ten times rougher/more grotty than the family friendly pub anyway.

Before the smoking ban I would have been bothered, but not now. Think it's quite sweet that your DH wants to take DD to do something that he enjoys.

it will be lovely dad memory for her, let her go.

I think you need to relax on this one. If it's a family pub, it's fine. My DH sometimes takes my DD to a match at his local (I hate football). She has a lemonade as a treat and they have a lovely time together - it's real bonding time father/daughter and it's not scuzzy at all. Pubs have, by and large, really cleaned up their act in the last decade. Sometimes I even join them at the end of the game. The leisure centre does not sound like a nice alternative.

Just to ask, what are you concerned about?

Ooh I would have loved that as a kid!
Yabu, one trip to the pub won't hurt her. As long as he's trustworthy of not getting v drunk?

Def let her go, I have many happy memories of saturday afternoons watching rugby league in the working mens club with a bottle of pop and a bag of crisps with my grandad and his pint. He taught me to play pool there too, standing on a plastic pop crate as I was too little to see over the pool table properly so I must have been tiny.
I haven't turned into a lout, learned far more swear words at school than there, but I still love Ben shaws lemonade and play a mean game of pool.

my dd loves the odd pub trip.

Let her go, she will be in her eliment set up with a lemonade or cheeky coke and a bag of quavers.

especially if there is a garden and other kids to play with.

ment to add pub far nicer than leisure centre too.

I used to love going to the pub with my dad as a kid - felt proper grown up! As long as its a nice pub I don't think it's a problem at all.

Just to clarify he is deffo not getting drunk. He would have one pint of beer max, probably usually a diet coke anyway.

Erm, what am I concerned about? I admit, I can't really put my finger on it, it's just it seems rather unsavoury for a little girl to be spending her leisure time dahn the pub.

I have never had an AIBU so unanimously against me. I think I'm actually going to have to concede defeat here. Thank you for setting me straight.

You cant concede you were unreasonable so easily, its unheard of!

You haven't gotten swearey, slagged off anyone or threatened to flounce yet

I agree withpuremorning, I demand a bun fight!

I used to go to watch the actual football at 7. Night matches an all. If DS wants to he can come along to watch stoke with me when he's that age. I would defiantly take him to a family pub

YABU.

My dad takes DS also 7 to the pub (again a family one) quite a lot to watch matches. He loves it so yes you are being unreasonable!!!

But I suspect you know that really

Seems a weird thing to do with a child to me, it's not exactly an activity is it? They could sit and watch football at home together, if he wants to spend time with her, why not go on a bike ride / feed the ducks at the park / fly a kite etc. ?
Worshipping at the altar of almighty football, in a pub of all places, is the very last thing I'd want a child of mine participating in.

I think it's fine, she'll have fun and come to No Harm

but then I had my 9 year old dd singing karaoke in a bar in Aiya Napa 2 weeks ago

YABU. She might love it. My dad used to take me to the football at that age. (although not in a pub - this was before they had TVs in them!) I loved being with him, although I still hate football!! (The crisps and bovril made it worthwhile)

I used to love going to the pub with my dad, I always got crisps and a comic and all his mates used to give me money. My son loves going to the pub too. . He's eleven. I see no harm if its a nice family pub.

YABU She will have a great time with her Dad. I used to love helping my Dad run events at the local. Plus she will learn invaluable social skills.

OP, you're BORING. Admitting you ABU.

Would it be more acceptable if you went too? Would you be more happy for him to take her to a football match in a stadium (where there is always lots of very, very load swearing)?

I'm not sure what the perceived problem is.

It could of been a massive fight couldn't it Maryz

Children,football and booze... could of been amazing