to do this to ex OH

[TheQueenOfDiamonds]

Some of you have seen my previous threads.

He's not bothered coming back at all. Aked abou our son all of two times. Asked about my daughter once.

I'm sick of talking on FB. It just goes round in circles. He told me he does want to be with me on friday and saturday. Yet still no appearence so I'm done.

I've deleted my facebook account and lef him a message saying I don't want to play head games. I need a clear head. If he truly wants to speak to me he knows where I live, I have no sympathy for the distance, he chose to go. I didn't ask him to. He also has my phone number and can call but I have blocked text messages.

Is this unfair of me? I think I'm being selfish but then I think I need to be in order to keep in a good frame of mind.

YANBU. Don't know the back-story but life is far too short to waste it running about after time-thieves. It's not selfish, it's self preservation.

I read your last thread.

You've really been through the mill.

FWIW I would usually say leave lines of communication open, which you have done, but you can't make him care, be a parent, phone etc.

Pop him in File 13 and look forwards, not backwards.

Jumpingthroughhoops - The making him bit is what I'm worried about. I don't want to look like I'm trying to corner him into doing things my way, but at the same time FB messaging isn't doing me any good as I end up sitting waiting for messages to know what's going on.

I've just been talking to his friend (who I get on with) and he told friend that he's "told me what's what". His friend is very disappointed as I have shown him what he's actually been saying to me, so I'm hoping his friend will have words as he says its not fair for him to try to lead me on, and that he is shooting himself in the foot because if he didn't do that I would not be removing internet contact.

He is welcome, at the moment, to come home to discuss anything he likes, but the longer he leaves it the more likely I will be to tell him to go away and take it to court as I won't have him just wander in and out of our lives as and when.

He's no excuse for no coming to see corey either, he has money to go out on the piss at least 3 times. It would only cost him £30 in petrol.